There comes a moment in every woman’s life where you meet this guy, and all is going well; he says he loves you, you hang out often, you make time for each other — until your gut makes you look through his phone. You find out the truth, and things start to go south, and before you realize it, you’re questioning everything that’s happened and who you are. This is called gaslighting.
I dated a guy who made me feel like the world and so comfortable. Sure, there were plenty of moments where red flags were being waved in my face and I ignored them, and he basically hated everyone I was associated with, but I was so enticed by the relationship that I didn’t care.
It wasn’t until I had the gut-wrenching feeling to look through his phone and found the truth of all of his infidelity. I was in horror, and at first, he felt sorry, but then he never apologized, and sooner or later, I was the crazy one.
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STOP ignoring the red flags! There is a reason your friends can see them, and you are aware they are there too.
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STOP ignoring your friends and their concerns for you. You wouldn’t let this happen to them, so why are you letting it happen to you?
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STOP feeling like you’re the crazy one. He/she has problems, not you. You’re doing everything right.
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STOP feeling like your life is going to end. The person meant for you is 100% out there, and Brad making you feel inadequate is not it!
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STOP letting them manipulate you. Your feelings are valid and you have every right to feel the way you do.
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START encouraging your friends to speak up, and you need to speak up too.
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START distancing yourself and start making yourself a priority.
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START replenishing your mental and emotional wellbeing. I understand this is tough, but you’re tougher.
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START spending more time in your girl group. They’ll be hard on you at first, but it’s only because they love you.
