Many individuals look at college as the start of their life, taking their first step into the real world. Part of this first step, for many, means finding their person, their soulmate, or whatever you’d like to call it. However, given the hectic class and work schedules many have, it can be difficult to meet new people, especially now that COVID-19 has impacted our lives. Luckily, I have some tips to get you started on meeting the right person.
- Be Genuine
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Making a genuine connection, of course, requires you to be your honest self. In college, you will meet people from all walks of life, from all over the world. That said, there will definitely be someone who shares your interests or your passions – don’t go changing these for anyone. The best relationships are the ones where you share interests or learn about things your partner loves that you otherwise would have never known about.
- Don’t Fear Rejection
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It’s also important to remember that most people in college are there to do their own thing. Think back to when we had in-person classes – did you remember everyone’s name? Did you see every little mishap each student may have had that day? Probably not – you were focusing on yourself, which is great! But it means it will probably take a little more work to make a connection – it will require getting a little bold. You may have to talk to someone you never have before or get creative with your number on a note – just remember, the risk is worth the reward! Don’t let fear or rejection get in the way of something bigger.
- Workplace Romance – Don’t Rule it Out!
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Having a job in college may be a little too much of a time commitment for some to handle, given a rigorous class schedule or important internship. However, for the college students who do work, you may just meet your lover at your job. You already have a similar interest – you work at the same place or enjoy the same products. You meet so many people throughout the day if you work a service job, which means many connections. According to HRreview, 30% of relationships start in the workplace (in fact, my parents both met at their college job)! Of course, it is important to remain professional, but isn’t it worth a shot at love?
- Avoid Hookups
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Hookup culture is huge in college. Of course, there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking part in hookups (just stay safe), but if you’re looking for a relationship, this probably isn’t the best path for you. Some students head into college with parties on their mind and are just looking for something casual. You have to be sure of someone’s intentions – make sure they’re looking for a relationship as well (after you’ve gotten to know them a little, of course). One way to do this is through a dating app. While there is a large crowd of young adults, you use these dating apps to find someone to have a fling with, those looking for something real will probably tell you so – that’s how my best friend met her partner!
- Be Active on Social Media
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Posting on social media, engaging with followers, and using multiple platforms will expose you to hundreds of people every day. Getting yourself out there digitally is a safer option in our current state, and it allows you to be creative! Don’t be afraid to create some romance with a well-crafted Instagram DM or a cute comment under someone’s photo. Get yourself out there!
It’s important to remember that your worth is not defined by how many people you have been with or who you have been with – all that matters is that you are happy. If dating isn’t something you want to focus on while in college, you have your whole life ahead of you. There’s no need to rush things; your person will come!