We all have someone who we can’t stop thinking about before bed. This person probably popped into your head as you read that first sentence and chances are you still, for whatever the reason may be, can’t seem to let them go.
Whether they came into your life at a convenient point in time, helped you grow, or were your first love, chances are neither of you are those people anymore. It’s hard to fathom the fact that people do change and people do grow apart, but it’s sadly a part of life. People get older and do different things, their experiences take them and their minds different places, a place you may not be at. Pages turn and sometimes you and the person you once loved, or still love, may not turn the page at the same time in life.
Here are 7 reasons why letting go is OK and that life WILL go on.
1. It is normal to do you. If the person you’re still waiting on to come around and be apart of your life again is taking way too long, something you probably don’t deserve, then start doing you. Don’t sit around in your dorm room while your friends have the night of their life, because someone who won’t give you 10 minutes of their day anymore wouldn’t like it. Show him what he’s missing.
2. There will be someone else. This someone else more than likely won’t come into your life right away, but they will eventually. When you are still holding on to something of the past, it’s not good to have someone else there immediately. Give yourself time to reflect on yourself, the person you want to be, and the person who you’d want to be with next.
3. You will love again. Most people hold on because they are in fear of never being able to love again or never falling in love again. Here’s the thing, not every boyfriend you have will be the same. Their personality will be different and so will their character. Because of that, you will love them differently. Love is love and it doesn’t all have to be the same. Besides, if you are still holding on to something that broke for whatever reason, you don’t want the next person to be the same or love them the same.
4. Let it be. Sometimes we have a thousand words to say or a thousand scenarios in our mind that we wish could happen, but just let it be. If it didn’t work out in the past there is a reason. If you are growing apart from somebody let it be and don’t force situations. If you try too hard to make things work it will probably not work out and things will go wrong again.
The phrase let it be isn’t just for relationship advice, either, it applies to every aspect of life. If something isn’t working out and you can’t figure out why, don’t stress your mind and heart to figure it out, some things just won’t be, and that’s important to know.
5. Find yourself. Before you can give yourself to someone else, you have to give yourself to you. I cannot stress this enough. If you’ve spent your whole life with different boyfriends, chances are you didn’t spend enough time focusing on you. When you’re young, you have all the time in the world to spend learning new things and meeting new people, why waste time on anybody but yourself?
6. The person you’re waiting for, probably isn’t waiting for you. Another sad, but true, part of relationships. If someone leaves you dangling for an answer to what the status of your relationship is, leave them. It only is benefitting the person playing the games, not you. You have a life to live and it shouldn’t be spent on someone else’s watch.
7. There’s life to live, so do it. There are other things in the world that hold great value besides falling in love or spending every waking moment with someone you probably won’t even marry. If you find yourself still holding on and holding back from living your own life, stop. Time flies and it just flies faster as you grow older. Don’t waste time waiting, there’s more to life.