You can’t pick or choose who you love. It’s a great feeling, and everyone wants to feel this amazing feeling. You can choose what you want to do with those feelings, but you can’t force yourself to have feelings for someone or force yourself to stop the way you feel about them. Honestly, if you think about it, if we all fell in love with “our” person right away, none of us would have to deal with the pain of going through a breakup or experience having a broken heart. Nowadays, you don’t even need to be in a committed relationship to feel these things. Two words: BOYS SUCK. Sometimes you miss the obvious red flags, but other times you don’t. Coming from a hopeless romantic, here are some of the major and minor fire signs that you’re in love with the wrong guy.
You Communicate Your Feelings But Nothing Changes
Especially with the new generation, talking about feelings is super hard, especially in person. Confrontation can give people major anxiety, or even a fear of possible rejection. Loving the wrong person involves having all the hard talks you want and communicating your problems, but the other party is not reciprocating the same energy as you. They simply ignore the basic wants and needs of a realistic relationship and let this pattern continue as a cycle. It’s important for you to realize when the relationship is not going anywhere, and when to draw the line with your partner. Even if you’re being honest with them, you need to be honest with yourself about the relationship too.
They Never Have Time for You
Like any wise person would say, “If they REALLY wanted to, they would.” Especially with moving away to college or having distance from your partner. Being away from your boyfriend is hard. You want to be with them every day. They say they want to be with you too, but they never try and make time for you. The relationship is completely one-sided. Remember, if they wanted to, they would.
You Put Them Before Yourself
Yes, caring about someone you love is important for a stable relationship. But it should not be to the point where you put their needs before yours. It can become emotionally and physically draining. Your relationship should have a fair amount of give and take. If your boyfriend truly cared about you, he would try to make the relationship work. Please remember to give some quality time to yourself, because at the end of the day, you are all that you have and you need to take care of your inner self. Don’t waste energy on someone who doesn’t give it back.
Love can be a curse or it can be a blessing. Yes, the feeling can be new or exciting, but you need to remember to love yourself first before some scumbag. The love you are giving away to someone who doesn’t deserve it will eventually find its way back to you. When one door closes, another one opens. Being in love with the wrong guy is a lesson. Don’t go looking for love, love will find you. Everyone finds love differently, and there will be so many more times for new love to blossom with someone worth your time.