Being in a relationship is a very normal thing human beings go through. But we all know someone who has gotten too caught up in their relationship and has forgotten all about their other friends and some other aspects of their life. Heck, I think we all have, to some extent, done the same. But what do you do when you are the one who is being third wheeled and left aside? We all have friends we would give our life for, but what if this friend ditches you for someone they met just a few months ago? I have some suggestions for you!
1. Show your support and interest in your friendship.
Let your friend know that you are there for him/her. Show your support towards this new and exciting experience they are going through.
2. Give her/him some space.
Just let them be for a little while, give him/her the space to get to know this person and get through the “honeymoon stage.”
3. Respect the relationship.
Don’t meddle in your BFF’s relationship, when people are in love they will not see other reasons than just their own. Do not say the hurtful, but almost always truthful, “you deserve better than him/her.” This will only drive your friend further away from you.
4. Talk to him/her about how you feel.
If you feel taken for granted or forgotten, the best thing you can do is tell them. You have respect and trust for this person, the least they deserve is for you to let them know how you feel. It is best to tell them to their face, than to create gossip when telling a third person.
5. Avoid the third wheel scene.
From personal experience, (oh, so many) this will only be awkward and make you feel worse about the whole situation, and can (most definitely will) lead to unnecessary fights.
6. If all else fails…
If your friend continues to fail to acknowledge your feelings and keeps constantly ignoring you, it might be time to step back and let him/her have it their way. It’s time for you to be selfish and think about yourself and spending time with people who truly appreciate you. This doesn’t necessarily mean that the friendship is over; just that, for now, it is best to spend some time apart.