Sex on the First Date: Hot or Not?

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Us girls and our codes, haha, right? Don’t tell your date everything about yourself on the first date. Only talking about yourself is a no, no, it universal rules like this kinda stomp on chemistry. What if you both have incredible chemistry and things just flow? Don’t kiss, and don’t hit on your friend’s ex. If these are the rules, then how do you even consider going all the way?

Other girls burned the so-called girl code bible and decided not to care much about people’s expectations. These women have broken every line possibly made. But unfortunately, the ones who do follow the book are afraid of what others might think about the girl who has sex on the first date. Will they be criticized for their actions? But why the controversy?

 
 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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People, it’s sex, it's not a space shuttle. You won't be launched in space. It just happens; some girls are into it, and some girls are not. Society conceives it as completely immoral, but as soon as a guy does it, it's entirely reasonable.

“Dude you’re a legend.”

That’s a phrase that I’d bet all my money on that their friends tell them regularly. What are the pros and cons of it?

For starters, for many, having sex on the first date might mean that you've already had it all;  there’s nothing else to explore. Men believe that the girl that gives it up quickly is the easiest you can recycle: you stick with her until the good “wholesome” gal comes by. But of course, others aren't misogynists. Regardless of gender, and totally dependent on sexuality, some people might just want to have some enthusiastic sexual fun on the first date.

I interviewed some students around campus, and they said the following:

Nataniel, a chemistry major, said: “I think you should wait and know the person well before anything else happens.” Pedro, a biology major, mentioned this: “Doesn’t matter if it’s a guy or a girl, having sex on the first date means that it’s just a fling. Sure, you can have a lot of fun, but I won’t ever have a serious relationship with anyone like that. I don’t think it’s wrong, but I think that if you want a real relationship, it’s better to use more traditional methods, then if things go well, sure, have sex.”

Natalia, a history student, talked about the following: “I think it’s fine if anyone does it, as long as they are wearing protection… but for the first time, that’s a no, no.” Joshua said this about the matter: “They must either be horny or have mad sexual tension between them, or they’re desperate. If it happens, it happens, but I don’t encourage it. It Rushes everything and most times gets in the way of getting to know each other. Even though sex is a good way to get to know one another, but yeah, once you’ve known other things.” What we’ve seen on campus so far is that not many people are fond of it, especially if it’s for a serious relationship

 
 
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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Whether we like it or not, adults and teens, in general, have an opinion about this. It’s all in how you play your cards. I think it’s tough to put yourself in that position because you never know if the other person will take you seriously if you have sex on the first date. Maybe to your date, you just became a booty call, and before you know it, that’s how it will always be. Do you even want to be with someone who thinks like that, though? Play it cool and be yourself. Don’t rush into things so quickly. Sometimes the wait is worth it. Sometimes you just want to go all the way. Either way is fine, as long as you're doing what you want to do.