Dedicated to my roommates: thank you all for the insanity.
When a group of young adults gets together, one of two things that might happen is chaos or harmony. Sometimes, it’s both. In my short time in “la Iupi,” I’ve had a handful of roommates, and fortunately, they’ve all been quite nice. But, not everyone experiences fun and rainbows. So, here are some “Do’s & Don’ts,” so you can become that one roommate everyone likes.
1. Do be considerate.
Even if you don’t get along, please try. After all, you’re in the same boat as them. So, what if your roommate is pulling that all-nighter, and you’re mad because the lights are on? Practice tolerance. Be supportive and make them coffee. It’s all about helping each other out.
2. Don’t take stuff without asking.
You’d be surprised at how often people go through this. Just ask if you can borrow those shoes; I’m sure they won’t mind.
3. Do try to have communication.
This is key. You can’t exactly ask your roommate to buy you that milk carton if you don’t talk at all. Good communication leads to trust and it helps to not leave anyone out of the loop.
4. Don’t fight.
Especially not a physical fight. There will be moments of tension, but don’t let it escalate to that point. It won’t help you or your roommate.
5. Do clean!
Try to be as clean as possible! This seems to be one of the biggest problems with roommates. Sure, sometimes we don’t have time, but don’t let it get to the point where it’s disgusting. Make a cleaning schedule and stick to it.
6. Don’t invade their private life.
Only do so if they ask for help, or if they allow it. But if it comes to a point where their life is in danger, do so. It’s fine if they don’t tell you everything, don’t take it to heart at all. It doesn’t mean they like you less– sometimes, it’s just who they are. Be that shoulder to cry on and offer that shot of tequila when they need it.
7. Do have fun with your roommate!
My best memories throughout college so far have been with my roommates. Have late night talks, order pizza so much that Domino’s knows your number sings along to the Jonas Brothers at insane volumes and watch weird zombie movies until you cry. Okay, maybe that was a bit too specific, but you get my point. Enjoy your time with your roommate. After all, isn’t it better to have a lil fun?
8. Don’t kill your roommate.
This one is obvious, but if you saw (Spoiler Alert!) Happy Death Day, you totally know what I mean.
Roommates aren’t perfect, but the bonds you form with them can be unforgettable. With a little bit of trust and maybe some pixie dust, you can go a long way. If I hadn’t had a good bond with my roommates, I wouldn’t have been able to survive my first year in college. There will be ups and downs, but remember, in the end, we’re all young adults trying to survive.