People Confess Their Shallow Deal-Breakers

Antoinette Luna Student Contributor, University of Puerto Rico - Rio Piedras

UPR Contributor Student Contributor, University of Puerto Rico - Rio Piedras

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UPR chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

Dating someone new is always scary, but it’s also fun. Even then, sometimes, the perfect person has that one thing that makes them anything but…Here, some people confess their shallow deal-breakers.

“I really like smiles, so if a guy has weird teeth, it makes me cringe. Small teeth, disproportionate teeth, really yellow teeth, weirdly bent and clumped up teeth… shudders I instantly just disappear.”

― bespectacled mermaid

“When their ego is way over their heads, and when they treat you like you’re replaceable. Also, you better not hate animals.”

― titus andromedon

“Bad breath.”

― free spirit

“Terrible music taste.”

― long-haired elf

“Yellow teeth, broken teeth, metal teeth, piercings that don’t look good, eyebrows that are not in compatible with their face, long nails, small penis, bad breath.”

― ZoeyBree

“The first thing that comes to mind is being boring, someone who doesn’t know how to keep up a conversation. Another thing that frustrates me is that when we’re alone, that she’s always using the phone. It’s okay to use it, just don’t stare at Facebook or Twitter 24/7 instead of talking to me.”

― just some guy

“Leaving me on ‘read’.”

― heart player

“Lack of empathy! And humility!”

― social butterfly

“Arrogance and attitude.”

― kitty cat

“Arrogance. A person can be perfect but arrogance just ruins it for me, if I’m honest.”

― mandy

“This sounds bad, but being a bad kisser is the worst. When you’re with a person it’s because that person completes you. For someone to be my person and be that “complete combo ideal”, I need my partner to be a good kisser, like honesty and respect are a requirement. I was with the perfect guy once, and he’s wasn’t attractive, but his personality was so amazing that I wanted to give it a try because he made me feel complete… Until I kissed him, then it was just abort mission. I felt bad, but I need my partner to be a good kisser for it to work out.”

― curly-haired firework

“My deal breaker is bad breath and body smell. I can’t!”

― tiny emma

“It’s probably between ugly hands or me being taller.”

― sun-kissed freckles

“If the person [I’m getting to know or dating] gives me a good vibe and makes me laugh, the door is pretty much open. I’ve liked a lot of variety of guys but, now that I think about it, I’ve never liked a person that is overweight. People can do as they please with their bodies but I try really hard to be healthy, and like, fight with my demons about it. To have a partner who doesn’t care about that would be too hard for me; therefore, I’m not attracted to them. I think it’s about the space of letting someone be. Like, I can’t like you because I wouldn’t feel comfortable when going on dinner dates and all that. Like I think I would be reminding them of health too much so like I just don’t get into that.”

― breezy sunflower

“Definitely, hygiene. If a person goes to the bathroom and doesn’t wash his hands, that makes me go crazy.”

― italian olive

“If the person smokes a lot. For example, if the person smokes one or two cigarette packets daily. If the person drinks a lot, too. Like, if we’re going out and he takes 10+ heavy drinks easily, that’s a deal-breaker.”

― liberal cheese

“Ego kills me. If they think they’re superior and treat everyone else like they’re worthless or nothing, I cannot deal with that. If he is close minded, that bothers me too. Like, he’s not open to listening to opinions and taking them into consideration, regardless of what for. If they’re so centered on their own opinions that they won’t take the time of day to think about your opinion about something big or even something small about daily life.”

― sparkly dancer

“That he has long nails, shaved legs or if he smokes cigarettes.”

― figüita

“He has to be an open feminist. He has to accept my facial/body hair, and he has to have nice teeth. He or she can’t be bad at sex, and he or she can’t be a vanilla sex kinda person.”

― frying pan

“Piercings. I always find them so off-putting. Like they have a certain edginess to them which could be hot, but not everyone can pull them off because piercings only looks good on some people. Even then, it’s short lived because after a while the edginess gets stale.”

― slim jim

“That he’s disrespectful.”

― hawaiian laurel

“Ugly eyebrows, ugly face, or when they use tight clothes and their rolls slip out.”

― frog prince

These submissions have been edited for length, and clarity or have been changed from Spanish to English. These submissions do not reflect the opinion of Her Campus at UPR as a whole, just some students of our community.