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We as people struggle with insecurities, low self-esteem, relationships, finances, etc. at some point in our life. It’s all apart of our growth process, or as most say, “growing up.” Looking back at elementary me, middle school me, high school me, and now college me, I am grateful for said “growing up.” I say this all to say “trust the process,” and be the you that you want to be.

Within the past two years, I’ve struggled with who I wanted to be, how I wanted to be looked at, and what I want my future to look like. I remember during spring 2018, I had the worst semester ever as a freshman in college. It was detrimental and mentally draining me to the point where I couldn’t even focus or had the strength to do what needed to be done academically. Then, summer 2018 happened, and that all changed. I interned with Project Transformation North Texas, which is a national non-profit organization that serves at risk children and focuses on literacy skills, spiritual, social, and emotional development in the Dallas community as well as Denison, TX. Well, during the summer, they hire “college-aged young adults” to serve the children and live in a community for 10 weeks. This internship was life changing for me mentally and physically. I learned so much about myself to the point that when fall 2018 came, I felt transformed, ready to get the work done. To say the least, the semester was rougher than what I expected and there I was in that headspace once again, frustrated mentally with myself and confused with the me I desired to be. I knew that something needed to change and for that change to happen, it had to start with me. I decided to take a semester off and transfer schools, which was the best decision that I could have ever done for me. It took me remove certain friendships, toxic energies, and even an entire school to get to where I feel like I was called to be. I interned again summer 2019 with Project Transformation North Texas, but this summer it was a little different. I had a leadership position and not only had the task of serving the children, but I had a team of 10 that I had to serve as well. Life changing is the only way that I can describe my summer. I figured out my calling and got the reassurance of who I was becoming. 

I say this all now to say that if you’re feeling “stuck” or “confused” with where you may be in your life right now, you have to “trust the process.” As a woman of faith, it took a lot of courage, trust, patience, and obedience in the God that I serve to get to where I am today. For that, I am forever grateful. I wanted to leave you with a few tips that helped me mentally to become the me I desired to be.


– Remove toxic energy 

– Remove toxic people

– Self care (journal, workout, etc.)

– Enjoy your “ME” time

– Believe in yourself

– Ignore the naysayers

– Follow your gut

– Do what makes YOU happy

– Be consistent

– Have Faith

– “Trust the Process”     

Hello, I am Tierra Bartie. Born and raised in Port Arthur, Texas. I currently attend the University of North Texas where I am a broadcasting journalism major with a minor in English. When I am not studying im either sleeping, eating, or hanging out with family and friends. I love working out in the gym and journaling as well.
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