Have you ever felt lonely at times?
Do you ever feel like you need someone by your side during the good and bad times?
Do you wish you were in a relationship like every other couple you see?
Do you feel that you need a “Valentine” to feel special?
Have you wished that your special someone would show up?
It’s most likely that you answered yes to at least one of the questions above. If that’s the case, then let me tell you that you’re not alone. Don’t get me wrong, it’s hard being single, especially during this time of year. Sometimes you’re at a point where you feel lonely and you gain this need to feel loved.
You want someone to go out to eat with, watch movies and cuddle with, hold hands with, etc. I’ve been in that position for the longest time and I still feel like that sometimes. But I want to tell you that this doesn’t always have to be the case.
I’m not saying that wanting to have a companion or partner by your side is a bad thing. I’m implying that you shouldn’t rely on somebody else to show you how much they love and care for you.
Before you let someone love you, the first thing you need to do is show how much you love yourself. You may feel that you need someone to love the good and bad about you and have them show it. That’s what most of us feel whenever we feel like we’re unloved.
There is only one solution to this constant internal problem and I think it’s something that needs to be done often amongst ourselves. The key to showing love to ourselves is by doing something that most couples usually do:
Date yourself.
The reason why couples go on dates is so that they can enjoy each other’s company and get to know each other better. Having self-dates is a great way to know more about yourself and show others that you don’t need a romantic partner to have a good time.
There are many different ways that you can go on a date with yourself. You can take yourself out to get frozen yogurt, coffee, and enjoy your own company. If you’re more of a homebody, then you could give yourself a self-care day; take a bubble bath, put on a face mask, order takeout, watch a movie. These are just a couple of examples of showing self-love.
If you can’t find the time to date yourself, the next best thing you can do is showing love to yourself whenever you can. Whenever you have a free moment where you feel pretty down, you can always find a way to show yourself that you’re amazing. When you feel at your lowest, just start listening to music that makes you feel like a badass, or take a look in the mirror and start telling yourself positive affirmations.
To all the singles out there that feel alone right now, don’t be afraid that you aren’t going to find somebody. Your special someone is out there somewhere. But before that person can deserve to love you, you need to love yourself.
Embrace who you are and enjoy yourself because self-love is the most beautiful thing you can have.