Rihanna said it best in her song “FourFiveSeconds” when she sang, “cause all of my kindness, is taken for weakness” and then went on to express how you can’t be surprised when someone has had enough of being taken advantage of.
Thoughtful, open minded, well mannered, respectable attitude, friendly etc. These are all qualities one person may have if they are considered to be “kind” amongst their peers. I’m the type of person who would go out of their way for others and to treat people with the same amount of respect as I would like to be given. We’ve all known the saying “treat others the way you’d like to be treated” ever since we were taught this lesson at a young age. If everyone is aware of this saying then why is my kindness looked at as a weakness?
Please start talking TO me and not down to me. I may listen to everything a person has to say and give them the attention I would like for myself but this shouldn’t translate to you being able to say whatever you like and expect me to be okay with it. It’s one thing to voice an opinion about a topic, but it’s another to talk down to someone because they’re there to listen. And when it’s their turn to talk, give them the respect they gave you; don’t make the conversation a one way street.
I try to be there for people as much as I can because I always hope someone will be there for me. If someone has a favor they need, I try my best to help them out in any way I can. Please stop taking this as a way to get anything you want from me because I have usually said yes in the past. Learn to not over step boundaries with people and don’t be surprised if a “no” pops out of their mouth. A person can only give so much until there is nothing left to give.
Everyone is going through their own struggles in life that people don’t know about. Take the time to have patience with people and treat them with respect. Don’t look at someone’s kindness and open heart as an excuse to walk all over them like they are wearing a doormat. Please stop taking someone’s kindness for weakness.