I think it is important to always have a set of goals set for oneself, as it gives you something to constantly be working towards. However, when people think of goals, they often speak in regard to the “bigger picture” at hand. Goals do not always have to be futuristic, like planning for internships, jobs or even life after college. They can be short-term too. Like saving money for a weekend away or even for getting a good grade on an assignment or exam.
Recently, I have decided to set a personal goal for myself. I have decided to try and work on my patience. Patience is something that never has come easy for me. I expect people to work at my pace, respond when I ask them to, be on time when they say they will, etc. These expectations may not seem like a big deal in the scheme of things, as these are viable anticipations. However, for me, the problem lies in how I react when things do not tend to go my way, or according to plan. Sometimes I get snappy, sometimes I raise my voice, sometimes I respond immaturely.
A good friend of mine has recently been trying to encourage me and hold me accountable on my journey to obtain more patience. Whenever I want to make a big deal of something small or get agitated without viable reason, I try to consider how it makes the other person feel. Or how I may let others down that have been trying to push me to be the best version of myself.
Another thing I try to do when getting agitated is talk things out, calmly. I am great at talking things out, as I like to come to resolutions. However, in the heat of the moment, I can let my emotions get the best of me. I have been practicing trying to mindfully think before speaking and taking deep breathes. This has really helped me.
Although having a lack of patience may appear as not that big of a deal, for me it really is. It is something that bothers me after I react poorly due to it. Plus, this is something that could prove to be helpful in future relationships and careers as I can become more in control of my emotions.
I need to let the little things not bother me so much. Sure, sometimes I am entitled to agitation, anger, and even impatience. However, the way I handle myself in those situations will speak volumes in regard to my character.
I encourage anyone reading this who wants to better themselves to not just make big long-term goals or even accomplishable short-term goals. Find specific areas where you see yourself lacking. Get others to hold you accountable for your actions. Make mental notes for improvement. Notice when you see yourself hitting a breaking point. Make changes necessary that will optimally allow you to become the best version of yourself.
Do not allow comfortability in your way of life allow you to feel like you are unable or unworthy of change.