In this day in age, it’s very easy to get caught up in a situationship. This is a romantic relationship that is not yet considered to be formal or “exclusive.” I don’t know about you, but I find myself in a lot of these rather than an actually established relationship and it’s not easy to keep my feeling in check, especially as a Cancer. We get swooped into these feelings but because you aren’t actually dating the rug can get ripped out from under you quite easily. Here is what I do when my heart gets broken by someone who wasn’t actually my boyfriend.
- Listen to my favorite music
Music has always been a big part of my life and causes intense emotions for me. When I am feeling any sort of emotional distress, I put my headphones on, and tune out the world. I try to stay away from the sad music but the first day or two I cannot help but blast Olivia Rodrigo or Taylor Swift. Once I’m feeling a little better, I make sure to keep the dance party playlist on shuffle to boost my mood.
- Self-Affirmations
It’s easy to be down on yourself after you get your heartbroken. Thinking that you are the problem, and everything was your fault. That isn’t the case and I like to remind myself that things happen for a reason, and it probably just wasn’t our time. There is no need to dig into yourself over something you couldn’t control, especially another person’s feelings. I like to remind myself that I am important, and someone out there is looking for my love. You can also take this a step further and write things down in a journal.
- Paint
Obviously, not all of you paint but that is just my favorite hobby that makes me feel better. I pull out a blanket canvas and just paint whatever comes to mind. I don’t draw anything out, trace, or even look at my phone for inspiration. I really try and let my artistic routes take over and paint whatever I feel in that moment. They might not be the best or most beautiful, but they are a true expression of emotions. If you don’t like to paint, I recommend doing any of your favorite hobbies.
- Deep clean my room
I feel like my room is always somewhat dirty, so making it look neat and clean makes me feel slightly put together. But I love my room and feel like it’s my space, and it’s very special to me. When I am feeling heartbroken, I take this to the extreme and clean everything in sight. I really organize every drawer, basket, and dresser I have. I want it to feel like an entirely new room. I’ll even start moving things around if I have the time. Something about a fresh clean room makes me feel better immediately.
- Hang out with people who make me smile
I love calling up a few friends, having a vent session, and then watching Disney movies the rest of the night. It’s a nice way to get your feelings out in the open but also not dwell on them. Your friends are around to listen and there to make you feel better, even though you might just want to be alone in those moments.
After my four years at college, I have experienced quite a number of heartaches over men who never even made me their official girlfriend. I attempt to choose not to be sad over these feelings and practice these steps to get myself back out there.