How to stop acting Crazy and start depicting Confidence!
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Let’s face it ladies, we’ve all had those moments where we’ve acted a little crazy or ridiculous when it came to relationships or hookups, and weren’t too proud of it. Whether you called him 30 times until he answered because you hadn’t heard from him, drove by his work or house 5 times to see if he had left, or even went as far as to stalk his facebook or twitter all week to see if he updated it; there’s no denying we all get a little physco sometimes. With some advice and easy to remember tips, however, I hope to help you beautiful UNH’ers remember how to be sexy and confident, and leave the crazy train behind.
 (what’s the big deal about calling him one more time…)Â
The biggest, and most important rule of thumb I like to use when in the stressful situation of having not heard from a guy, is to remember that before you met him, you never waited by the phone or computer for a message, so why are you now? Just because you may have been together for one or more nights, or hung out a couple times, doesn’t mean this guy is going to be the man of your dreams and if you don’t hear from him your life is over. You are a beautiful, confident, and smart women, and any man should be dropping at your feet to want to talk to you. So if this guy is dumb enough to not call you the second he wakes up, then don’t bother wasting a breathe of air on contacting him first, because whether he contacts you or not, your life will not be damaged by a small misfortunate encounter with 1 out of the 6 billion people on this earth.
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The next rule I always like to abide by is the rule of, the more he waits, the more he wants to know. Not only does this rule apply to going home with a guy, but it also applies to texting, calling, wallposts, and friending. If the guy your thinking about suddenly friends you the next morning, let it sit on the screen for a day or two to make him anxiously wait to stalk your pictures and videos. Allowing him to see your whole life so quick could make him not only have preconceived judgements about you, but it also takes away from all the fun you could have getting to know eachother! If he texts you mid-afternoon to see what you’re up to, wait about 10 minutes to reply, and don’t give away the rest of your plans for the day within the first text. The less you say in each text message, the more questions he’ll have to ask about your day and plans, which allows the conversation to go on for way longer than you’d ever imagine. So instead of replying with an over extensive, ” Hi nothing, what’s up with you! I’m going out to get coffee with the girls then going the mall”, a better response would be “Hi there, nothing really I’m just trying to figure out my day.” This makes him not only wonder what you could be doing, but it also shows him your not too worried about what he’s doing. In terms of calling, I always say that you don’t call him first within the first 3 weeks unless he calls you and you missed it, in which case your returning his call. This doesn’t mean call him every 20 minutes until he answers, just one simple call with a quick, and cute voicemail will make him call you back the second he hears it. Obviously guys don’t like to be bothered to begin with, so if he wants to talk to you or see how your doing, believe me he will take the time to call or text you as soon as he is ready.
The last piece of advice is that when you do make face to face contact with that special guy, don’t throw yourself at him the second he walks in the room! You need to give off an aura of confidence to everyone in the room, especially him; and believe me, being the drunkest or loudest is not how to do so. When you seem him, simply give him a nice, and sincere hello, but then walk away to talk to other people so he knows he’s not all you care about. As he tries harder and harder to get your attention by either flirting with other women, or standing right near you without talking to you, don’t get mad and try and get even. Instead remember to stand up tall, be confident and cool, and have a great night with your girlfriends, dancing and laughing. By the end of the night, he’ll not only think your the sexiest and coolest girl in the room, but ignoring him will have his mind racing about what you think of him, which will instantly lead to him coming over to talk to you.
 (What other girls? He can’t take his eyes off her)
My most important advice is to realize that guys are not only not as sensitive to situations as we are, but that also not every guy you meet will turn out to be perfect. There will be many guys that are rude, blow you off constantly, seem amazing; then get with your bestfriend, or just simply are not that into you. Yet, through all the heartache and annoyance that meeting these superior weeds brings you, just know that you are one step closer to meeting a beautiful rose that will sweep you off your feet. And when that day comes, he will constantly call and text you, always want to see you, appreciate and listen to all your opinions, and even take you on dates to somewhere nicer than hoco! So instead of obsessing over why you haven’t heard from him yet, or why he keeps blowing you off, you need to start thinking; “Why do I care?!” You have all the potential to sift through the bad eggs to find the perfect one, it just takes the confidence to believe in yourself enough to throw them out! Remember ladies, it’s not the place or place that makes you who you are, its the moments with people you love that make the place. So get off facebook, and out of the stuffy dorms, and try heading to portsmouth or walking downtown durham to start enjoying life!
(Do you think they ever let a man hold them back?)
Xoxo Durham’s finestÂ
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