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Is He Legit?

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UNCO chapter.

 

Okay, we have all been there … A guy comes into your life, and you find him too good to be true. Chances are he might be your knight in shining armor who rescued you out of a cold, lonely, dark hole. Or he could just be super determined to get into your pants. Either way, the answer is hard to tell because it depends on the situation. In all honesty, we as women tend to like the attention regardless of the situation at hand. However, we need to be smart about these things. Here are some signs to tell if he is legit, or if he just wants to hit it and quit it.

How to tell if he is only trying to get into your pants:

1. Let me start with the obvious: he is too persistent! Right when you meet him, he already wants to take you back to this place to “watch a movie” or “order some food.” Uh, no.

2. He never wants to take you out on a nice date. It is always something along the lines of meeting up at a party or going over to his house to hang out.

3. He does not take the time to get to know you on a deeper level. Instead, he only wants to get to know certain parts of you, if ya know what I mean.

4. He does not want to make anything Facebook official. He says, “We know what we have, so why does anyone else need to know?” It is obvious that what he is really saying is, “I cannot let my other hookups know I am seeing another girl.”

Bottom line: If you have to work at creating romance in this relationship, then he is not legit. If a guy wants to treat you like a princess, then HE WILL!

How to tell if he is legit:

1. He will be nervous and cute when he approaches to meet you.  He will ask you about yourself. It will seem as if he really wants to get to know you on a deeper level.

2. He will ask you out on a REAL DATE! Real gentlemen will get you flowers, go out of his way to pick a nice restaurant and will actually pay for the both of you (what a concept!).

3. He will not be too pushy to invite you to his place anytime soon. This will automatically make you want to invite him to your place because you cannot handle his cuteness!

4. After all of this is said and done, he will ask you to meet his friends. This is a done deal. This guy is legit, and he will more than likely ask you to be his girlfriend.

Bottom line: Guys like this like to take it slow and treat you like a princess. If it feels like you do not have to impress him, then it’s a good sign he is looking for something more than just sex.

Well, now you know how to tell whether he is legit or not. I hope you will take this advice to heart and use it throughout your dating years. Every girl likes attention, but to the ones who want a real man and relationship, take this advice and run with it! Good luck!