In one more month, I am going to be 20 years old. As excited as I am to reach this milestone in my life, I realize that I still have a lot to learn about myself and this beautiful, crazy adventure called life. Below are a few of the important lessons that I have learned throughout my teenage years that I will carry into my roaring 20s. Let the party begin!
1. People Love and Need to be Loved in Different Ways
Each person has their own love language. Mine are words of affirmation and quality time, but I know people who really value physical touch, acts of service, or gifts. People give and receive love in different ways, so it is important to know someone’s love language. This will help you demonstrate your love to them in THEIR language and be an overall better friend/partner.
2. Don’t Expect Everything to Stay the Same
Nothing ever stays the same for anyone. Schedules change, friends move, passions shift, and life happens. Learn to be okay with these changes and make the most out of the time that you DO get to spend with people. Be present, but also capture these memories so that you can hold them dear to your heart.
3. Don’t Make Major Life Decisions to Please Others
Don’t ever agree to do something unless you 100% want to do so! I’ve had instances in my life where I didn’t feel good about a decision, but still went through with it because I was afraid of disappointing those around me. In the end, it ended up hurting me and made me wish that I listened to what my heart was originally telling me to do.
4. Ask for Help
Whether you may be struggling with school or your mental health, let your loved ones know—some burdens aren’t meant to be carried alone. Everyone in this world is dealing with some sort of problem. For many of us young people, this might mean experiencing setbacks or struggling with our identities. During this, it always feels good to talk it out with someone that you trust. They might be able to give you some good advice or help you find ways to address your problem.
5. Don’t Be Afraid to Express Your Feelings to People
There’s no point in concealing your feelings and acting like you don’t care. Send your friends random “I love you and I hope you’re doing well!” texts. If you find yourself constantly thinking about how someone is doing, ask them! Everyone goes through tough times, and a simple text can let them know that you care about them and value their presence in your life.
6. You’re Allowed to Admit That You Like the Mainstream Stuff
Whether it’s music, tv shows, movies…it’s popular for a reason, right? I’ve literally watched The Notebook more times than I can count and cried EVERY single time. I’ve also never been afraid to admit that I like boy bands and pop stars. One Direction? Yeah, they’ve got bops. Justin Bieber? We love a talented king (but please give us new music)!
Although I am not a philosopher, I hope that these lessons resonate with you. Regardless of the challenges that I have yet to overcome, I am so excited for what my 20s will teach me. I encourage all of you to ask someone in your life about an important lesson that they have learned—their answer might surprise you!