All of us have felt at some point in our lives that we need approval and praise, but why? Why do you need someone to approve of your decisions and choices? I only have one answer, which is you don’t. Why play into the standards placed upon you because darling you’re perfect. Don’t let someone tell you otherwise. Everything you do should be your choice and not because of someone else. I know you’re probably like I already do this, but we always need a reminder.
There are so many different situations where you just start to question who you are. You try to fit the mold someone wants for you. It can be the expectations your parents may have or when you try to make your friends happy. The most common one I tend to face as some of you all face is when it comes to significant others. It seems silly because if that significant other is making you jump through hoops to fit their expectations, then the response should be that you leave them. If you’re into the dating scene with actually meeting people to start a new relationship, then wanting that approval is normal. You don’t want to face rejection because you think something is wrong with you. You might think that no one wants to be with you, so you need that validation to boost your self-esteem.
You need to stop. I’ve been down this road to plenty of times to tell you that you don’t need anyone’s validation. The only validation that matters is your own and not others say. It sounds easy to stop, but you and I both know that it isn’t. This doesn’t mean you stop trying. You will have times that you go back to seeking validation from others, which is okay because it happens sometimes, but here are some things to remind that you don’t need it. You are enough. You are perfect. You are beautiful. You are one of a kind. The people who love you will always remind you of this. There is someone special out there for you who won’t ever make you need validation because you won’t need to question yourself with them. You don’t need any validation.