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To The Person Who Is Not In My Life Anymore

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UIC chapter.

Dear Nonexistent Person,

My life is going great and I hope yours is too. It’s funny to think of our time together because it feels like a distant memory. I’m not saying that I didn’t appreciate our time together because I did, but I’ve moved on. I’m not the same person I was when you knew me. I know you’re not the same person either. We change and grow as a person, which is what should happen. I shouldn’t be the same person and neither should you. Growing as a person is a part of life and that’s what I’ve done.

Honestly, I should be thanking you. If it wasn’t for you, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. Don’t let this inflate your ego because I’m only giving you some credit. You helped me grow as a person by learning new lessons, so that I don’t make the same mistake again. You taught me life lessons that I still carry with me today. You serve as a reminder of what not to do. You are a reminder of who I should trust and who I should look out for. You are a reminder that people will disappoint you. You taught me that you can’t change a person, if they don’t want to change. You taught me to live in the moment. You taught me that it’s okay to cry sometimes. You, however, are not a forever person in my life. You walked in my life quickly, which is how quickly you walked out of my life. The footprints you left aren’t ones to be forgotten, but just as I started my letter: you are just a distant memory.

I don’t think of you often. When I think of you, it does consist of the good, but the bad too. The people in my life now are those that aren’t leaving. They don’t make me doubt myself and continue to push me to be the best version of myself. They remind me that not everyone will disappoint you or break your trust. They remind me that even when they leave footprints in my life that they aren’t leaving. They remind me to keep a positive mindset and to live life without always overthinking things. They remind me to speak my mind and to never let anyone dull my shine. They keep me in check when I go off the handle because they care about me. These are the people I’m lucky to say are my forever people because I know 10 years from now that they’ll still be there. 

This letter isn’t one to make you feel bad. Even everything we’ve gone through and that the time that’s pasted by, I wish you not nothing, but the best.  I’ve learned that the past is the past and that the only thing we can do is move on. You came into for a reason just like you left for a reason. I hope you find forever people in your life because it’s the best feeling in world to have people like that. 

Hi I'm Aeja! Junior at UIC and a Pre Nursing Major. I try to write what inspires me, so I hope you enjoy my articles!
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