Nobody tells you how long a broken heart lasts.
It’s easier at first.
You can be mad, you can cry whenever you want without anyone questioning it. After a few months, friends and family don’t pay as much attention, but to you it feels like it happened yesterday. The classic advice, “Don’t think about him,” “Unfollow him,” “Try to stay busy.” Yeah, that’s all great advice, but no one tells you how long it takes. No one tells you how much it still aches months after the actual breakup. Even when you get to the point where you don’t think about it as much, the memories still come and they still hurt just as much. Even when you don’t want to think about it, you do.
Just waiting for that day when you wake up and don’t care. Impatiently waiting for the day when you see a picture of them and it doesn’t make your heart flip. How long does it take to really get over it?
You’ll drive yourself insane if you keep thinking you should be over it when you’re just not. There is no time limit. There is no set number of months or checkpoints. Every break up is different. Every person is different.
The truth is, it hurts until it hurts less.
We have this false thought that one day we will feel absolutely nothing for that person and be completely unaffected by all the pain we once felt. So we wait and we wait and we wait for that day to come, but it never does. Was there an exact date when you saw an ex and didn’t feel anything? Didn’t wonder what they were up to? If you cared deeply about them the answer is most likely no. Maybe you didn’t have strong romantic feelings anymore, but you still felt something.
Move Forward
Instead of trying to get “over it,” we should simply move forward. The best way to get rid of a thought is to replace it with another. There will come a day when you don’t think about it everyday. All your unanswered questions and thoughts of what could have been will be fade away. You’ll make new memories that will replace the old. You’ll start a new story and begin again.
The pain you feel will eventually make you stronger. You’ll still remember all the emotions, but they will become far off memories. They won’t haunt you like they do now.You’ll surprise yourself on that day when you run into your ex and don’t see them as something you no longer have. You’ll remember what it was like to know them and how you grew from the experience.
So you don’t have to be over it, you just simply have to keep going.