As we all know, Carrie Bradshaw is the beloved fictional journalist on the show Sex and The City where she tackles dating and sex. Here at Her Campus UGA, we decided to have our own dating and sex column called: “Sex and The Classic City.” We will mainly be focusing on dating and relationships, and maybe sex here and there. Enjoy the first feature:
A title. There are tons of titles in the world that a person can hold. A friend. A student. A leader. But the one title that people seem to care about the most is the title of boyfriend or girlfriend. There gets to a point in every relationship when people start to wonder: “Am I his girlfriend?” or ”Should I wife her up?”
As a female, I understand that it’s the security we crave when it comes to titles. No one wants to be in an exclusive relationship for a long period of time and not have an official title to it. There’s always a point where we start to feel uncomfortable without having a title because society says WE NEED a title. WE NEED to, as Tamara from Awkward would say, “DTR” (define the relationship). I can’t help but wonder, why do we as society judge one another for being in a relationship without a title?
When you Google search dating without a title, you will find tons of articles telling you that the guy has commitment issues or that you are the problem and that is the reason why y’all have not made it official yet. Your friends will tell you during your girl-chat that, “If he really liked you, he’d be with you.” But that may not be the case. Being in a relationship without a title is not a scam. WAKE UP CALL: IT’S CALLED DATING.
Dating is becoming more of an ancient thing to us as the days go by. We live in a culture where people would rather skip dating all together and get straight to sleeping with each other and having a relationship based off of that. People tend to think that the bond between two people comes from the physical relationship or even the title itself. With dating in the middle, you are actually enjoying each other’s company and learning more about each other as time goes by, but there’s no pressure or rush to get titles since you are trying to see if there is a real connection and not just a fling.
But then people would come back and say, “The title sets boundaries in a relationship.” Titles allow people to hold the other person to a higher expectation. In order to avoid this, make sure that intentions are clear and there is constant communication on where you stand.
At the end of the day, your relationship is YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Yes, you may endure funny looks and comments that make you start to wonder for a second. However, if you and your S.O. are happy on where y’all are at, that is all that matters. Let’s stop having society dictate are love lives.