It’s the moment you’ve been waiting for. Your family just helped you out with the finishing touches on your dorm room, your belly’s stuffed from the farewell meal at Dragonfly, and your entire life is about to change: you’re a freshman again, and just like the start of high school, this new environment means a chance to reinvent yourself. Why not be a cooler, smarter, more confident version of yourself this time around? Who wouldn’t want that?
While this option seems appealing, the easiest way to be the best version of yourself isn’t by pretending; it’s by just being yourself. Yes, it’s cliche, and even confusing. How can you be anybody but yourself? The definition comes down to acknowledging three main points.
1. If your actions make you uncomfortable, they’re not right for you.
A recipe for disaster is becoming someone you don’t like. You have to remember, even if you’re trying to win people over, the only person who has to spend time with you is yourself. Not only that, but you’re the only person who has to live with the consequences, and once you start giving up control over your choices, it can be very hard to get it back and feel comfortable in your own skin.
2. You’ll be happier in the long run not putting on an act.
If you were to lie about your interests and fake it to attract a new type of crowd, think about how long would have to maintain this persona. First impressions are momentary, but college lasts years. In the end, you’ll be much happier with people who love you for your quirks than with people who don’t even know you; or worse, see right through your facade and write you off as disingenuous.
3. Not everyone’s going to like you, and that’s okay.
Perhaps the biggest reality bomb you’ll ever swallow is that you will not be adored by everyone you meet. I know it’s sad, but you actually gain so much more by realizing that you wont have to please everyone. Instead, focus on gathering a group of friends who will support your decisions and love you for who you are!
Well, that’s all for now. If you have any questions or notes regarding the freshman experience, feel free to comment down below!