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College Probz: What Do You Mean You’re a Virgin?

Let’s talk about sex, baby. Let’s talk about you and me. Let’s talk about all the good things and bad things that may be. Let’s talk about sex.

I’m hoping when you’re about to lose your virginity your partner won’t be rapping those Salt N’ Pepa lyrics to you, but instead making you feel as comfortable as possible before swiping your v-card.

Alright, so let’s talk about sex. I know this subject isn’t everyone’s favorite to talk about, but it’s something that should be taken seriously. First things first, if you are a virgin, claps to you! Many people have this idea that they must lose their virginity before they leave for college to be better “prepared” for what college has to offer. However, this motive comes from a Hollywood movie-based perception, which is 100 percent false. Having sex before attending college will not help you ace those exams or appear “cooler.” If you have had sex before going to college, no judgments towards you, either. The world is too judgmental already, so why judge others on something so personal, like sex? No one can control when people judge others, but what we can do is figure out a way to change the conversation so no one feels embarrassed or vulnerable. Here are a few things to keep in mind concerning sex.

1.  It’s None Of Your Business.

Nowadays, sex is everywhere you look, so you can’t blame people for talking about it. It’s hard not to, when everything around you symbolizes it (magazines, movies, talk shows, etc.). However, you should never underestimate the power of saying no. If your friends around you are talking about their latest sexual experience  and want your input, you can simply say no. If they say it makes you lame, then are you sure they are your real friends?

2. Stand Up For What You Believe In.

This goes both ways, virgin or non-virgin. If people are judging, and you’re sick of it, then it’s time to take a stand. They shouldn’t be judging you in the first place. The matter of being a virgin is nobody’s choice but yours, so it’s not like anything they say is going to have any positive impact on you. On the other hand, if you have had multiple sexual partners and people decide to label you as a slut, you shouldn’t stand for that either. Like I said before, your sex life is your business and only yours, you decide whatever you want to do or whoever you want to tell.

3. Always Be Prepared.

People love to talk, but when it comes time for the actual thing, you always want to be prepared, both mentally and physically. It is important to communicate with your partner about what he or she is comfortable with, and of course if you are comfortable as well. Remember there is no rush to have sexual intercourse in any scenario, even if you’re not a virgin. Take your time, enjoy getting to know your partner and don’t let the pressure get to you.


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