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Rachel’s Boy Blog: The Extinct “Nice Guy”

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Rachel Miller Student Contributor, University of California - Santa Barbara
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UCSB chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

“The Nice Guy.” We have all heard of this inherently compassionate, affable archetype of the male species–hell, we all have one of these guys in our lives, whether they are a friend, boyfriend, or what I would classify as a “Hooker”…get your minds out of the gutter, I am not referring to one who sleeps with others for financial benefit, but instead that one guy in your life in which their affection for you is unrequited and you whom you merely “keep on the hook” for an ego boost. Don’t judge, every girl has one. The system of societal Hookers mirrors that of aquatic and terrestrial food chains, making each girl both a predator (loved) and prey (lover).

However, the breed of the “Nice Guy” is threatened, red-listed, near extinction. As each member of this breed discovers their vulnerability as solely prey and never predator, they begin changing their ways, subsequently and rapidly leading to extinction. Due to the evolutionary concept of natural selection, there are fewer “Nice Guys” left and a sudden influx of yet more “Bad Boys”– an, unfortunately, undying and inescapable breed.

We curse this inevitable and scientific genetic drift of alleles from nice to bad; however, we have only ourselves to blame. Why do we continuously and whole-heartedly go after something and someone that is and will continue to be unattainable? Is it merely a game to us, keeping us in the “chase,” clawing for the title of “Girlfriend?” Is it all so that we can say, “I changed him. ME. I did it, I did the impossible”? When will we learn that the “Bad Boy” breed is not meant to be domesticated? They cannot be house-broken; they are meant to thrive in the wild. The increase in sales of Ben & Jerry’s and Taylor Swift CDs alone should tell us that these guys are not good for us. Regardless, we continue our hunt, and, in all honesty, fun in finding these “Bad Boys.” Hopefully, us girls will eventually experience our own Darwinian evolution, allotting us more intelligence and responsibility when it comes to our choice of guy. But until then enjoy the inked skin, pierced ears, and callused, guitar-playing hands!

Rachel is a senior at UC Santa Barbara and studies Communication and Global Peace and Security. Rachel is from a small, beautiful town in southern California called Palos Verdes. However, Palos Verdes is just one of the many places Rachel has lived. Rachel spent her childhood moving and traveling all over the world, living in places such as Indianapolis, Indiana; Santiago, Chile; Vienna, Austria; and Orlando, Florida. Rachel has found her heart and her home in California, choosing to spend her college years in sunny Santa Barbara. However, Rachel continued her wanderlust when she studied abroad in Barcelona, Spain in Fall 2012. At UCSB, Rachel is an immensely dedicated and involved member of her sorority Kappa Kappa Gamma, where she held the positions of Panhellenic Delegate, Inter-Greek Counselor, Rho Gam, and a member of the Nominating Slate. Best Buddies, a nonprofit organization dedicated to creating opportunities for one-to-one friendships, integrated employment, and leadership development for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities, is a passion of Rachel's, as she is their Social Media Coordinator as well as an active and proud member. As a member of the Lambda Pi Eta Communication Honors Society, Rachel is able to implement her prowess and affinity for communication and communication-related issues. When Rachel is not writing, participating in Kappa events, or volunteering, you can find her in the gym, on the soccer field, watching Modern Family, or cooking. Rachel's love for sports, food, and writing often times go hand-in-hand, as one may see in her weekly blogs. For the past two summers, Rachel has been freelance writing for the Los Angeles Times, and hopes to continue her career pursuit of journalism after she graduates. Rachel is elated to be a part of Her Campus's fabulous team and loves every moment of it!