Going through a breakup can be hard on a person. There are a ton of emotions that go along with having someone important leave your life. It is tough moving on; there’s always a feeling of confusion and feeling lost. These emotions are normal and they eventually fade, but it takes time. Here are a few tips that can help you through the process.
1. Make a playlist
Music is a great way to express yourself and you can find comfort in the lyrics. But instead of making a playlist full of sad songs, make it fun! Add songs that you listened to when you were happy and songs that make you feel nostalgic, thinking back to middle school (those are always great). The point is to distract yourself and to relish in the happy moments in your life. Remember you will continue to make new memories along the way that you can attach to new songs. Better days will come.
2. Write a letter
What the letter entails is fully up to you. It does not have to be addressed to anyone in particular, either. Grab the nearest writing utensil and a place to write and just go off. Writing is a great way to expel all the emotions you did not realize you were bottling up. Make it as angry or sad as you want. After you finish writing, read over it. The purpose is for you to reflect on the situation. You can even pretend you are reading it to the person you addressed it to, you know, for a more dramatic effect. You can either choose to keep the letter, burn it, or toss it. The point is that you’ll feel a little less weighed down.
3. Go out
If you get the chance to do absolutely anything that gets you out of your room, do it. Start saying yes to everything you can. This will get you out of your comfort zone, and it’s a great opportunity to keep yourself busy and distracted. Even going for a walk down the street is great.
4. Take yourself out on a date
What I found to be surprisingly helpful was spending an entire day to myself. Plan out a fun activity for you to do and wing it from there. Maybe go thrifting and take your time to find some cool new things. You can end the day by buying yourself some ice cream and walking along the pier. The point is to find comfort within yourself and remind yourself that you will be okay on your own.
5. Surround yourself with love
We often forget that we do not have to go through a tough situation on our own. It is okay to ask for help, especially during a time when you may feel extra lonely. You don’t even have to talk about the problem if you don’t want to. Getting a cup of coffee with friends and just enjoying each other’s company can really help.
