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Collegiette’s Guide to Sorority Rush: My Experience Rushing Twice

Imagine standing in front of an army of beautiful girls– they have perfect hair, perfect bodies and perfect faces. Would you want to be a part of it?

I did. When I rushed my freshman year of college, I made it my goal to join the top sorority. I was never prom queen in high school, and to tell you the truth, I never felt like I fit in. But now that I was finally in college, it was my chance to be cool– to be popular.

When I talked with the girls in the top house, I was not myself. I made jokes I didn’t find funny and conversed about things I considered boring. When the ladies asked me if I had been going to the frat parties each night, I said I did, but I was really just too tired to go out after the long rush days.

Each morning I found the top house on my rush schedule once again. The girls liked me! Well, they liked the fake me. As I heard the other girls in my rush group talk about how they were cut from the house I wanted to join, reminding me how hard it is to be called back, I felt special– I felt cool.

I returned to the house every day, but only found myself engaging in more superficial conversations. At the end of the week, I got a bid from the sorority. Only one other girl in my group also got a bid because everyone else had been cut. When I opened the envelope and found a certificate with the top house on it, I felt excited, but also really nervous.

But being nervous is not how you’re supposed to feel around your future sisters. My first night out with the house, I felt like I was in high school again. Girls ignored me as I started to talk and I looked at way too many backs from the outside of the circle.

After a week, I decided to drop the sorority– none of girls even seemed to actually care.

I decided to rush again the following year. But this time, I approached the process with a completely new perspective. It no longer mattered to me what house had the best reputation. I wanted to find girls that made me feel comfortable and that I could have genuine conversations with. I was looking for a place that I could be my goofy self in.

It turns out that being myself was the way to go because I accepted a bid from a house I absolutely adore. All of the girls are so easy to talk to and I already feel like I could come to them for anything. I am so excited to continue to get to know my new sisters this year!

But if you just pledged a house that you don’t feel comfortable in, you can always drop and rush again with a different perspective– trust me it’s worth it.

*Photo credits to Unsplash.com 


Hannah Wren is an English major and Digital Humanities minor on the Dean's Honors List for outstanding academic performance at UCLA. Hannah loves to write and has ample writing experience outside of school. Currently, she works at 7 Generation Games where she creates content for their website to engage and inspire their users. When she is not writing or working, she enjoys spending time with her family, bonding with friends and reading. After she graduates college, Hannah hopes to become a UX designer, entertainment journalist and publish a novel.
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