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Wherever You Go, I’ll Follow: When You Should and Shouldn’t Move For Your Partner

Every girl dreams of the day that her boyfriend asks her to move in. It’s a huge step that some people (eh hem, Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries) can’t overcome. But what’s a girl to do when she’s asked to relocate her entire life for her boyfriend?

A lot of girls are very willing to up and move to be closer to their boyfriend. They leave their friends, their schools, their lives just to be with that one person. So many fellow collegiettes that I know have transferred schools to be able to make a life there with their main man. There are times you should and shouldn’t relocate, so listen closely and take note, girls, in long-distance relationships!

Should

Long-term relationships are an exception to moving. And no girls, I do not mean six months. Six months in, you are just learning the little quirks. Give it a solid year of actually being together, at least, before you consider moving. This time frame eliminates any questions of commitment (or lack thereof), and you should have some sort of an idea of where the general direction of the relationship is going.

Shouldn’t

Transfer your life to a new city and new school after two solid months of dating. You barely know each other names after two months of dating, and you’re going to pack up your entire life and leave? Re-evaluate this situation after someone pinches you.

Should

Relocate, but not make the man the main reason. If you’re relocating for the sole purpose of a boy, be sure that there are at least three other MAIN reasons for your move. You’re moving to a better school. You’ll have a better job. You’ll be in a better city. The list can go on and on. Let the boy come as an added bonus, not the center of your universe.

Shouldn’t

When he won’t move for you, don’t move for him. If it isn’t a two way street now, it won’t be worth it in the end. If he isn’t willing to compromise, then why should you?
 
There you have it, girls. If you’re currently in the dilemma of “To move or not to move,” this should be a little bit of an eye opener!
 

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