Men lie, cheat, and get away with it because we forgive them for the “little mistakes” they make. But in reality, their mistakes aren’t so little. Instead of letting go, we cling on for dear life to a man that doesn’t deserve us. For what? To protect our hearts from another bad break-up? The truth is, some things are just unforgivable. Sometimes you have to cut your losses early to avoid an irrevocably painful heartbreak in the long run.
Should you believe everything he tells you, no matter how shady it sounds?
A compulsive liar will tell you he’s on the phone with his mom “Eliza” when you know his mom’s name is Jennifer (And you know his mom isn’t nicknamed “babe” either). Or he might tell you he’s home alone for the night, until someone tags a Facebook picture of him kissing another girl at a bar. He can sound very convincing at first… after all, compulsive liars are expert deceivers.
Should you forgive him?
Don’t ever stand for liars. EVER. Lies get uncovered sooner or later. Especially if he’s stupid enough to post his infidelities on Facebook. At the first
sign of lying, dump this guy.
Should you forgive him if he’s a classic cheater?
Let’s say you found an email with naked pictures of his “best friend” dated on your 6-month anniversary. Or maybe you log into his Facebook to hack a cute message, only to find a bombshell IM conversation…with his supposed ex.
Should you forgive him?
Ladies, none of the above situations are appropriate. This guy needs to get over his pimp-player status and grow up. Confront him about his infidelities and tell him to move to the left, to the left… because he is not irreplaceable.
What if he stands you up on a date?
Let’s say you’ve been waiting for him at a romantic restaurant for two hours, looking really pitiful. People have started giving you the “you’ve been stood up” look, and you feel really embarrassed. You’ve called him hundreds of times, but he doesn’t answer. When he finally picks up after the 100th call, he says he’s too busy hanging with his boys to come by.
Should you forgive him?
Don’t stand for this. If he thinks he can waste your time, then he’s a waste of YOUR time. Find someone else that’s worthy of your efforts.
Should you let him call you names in public?
This insecure boyfriend will call you a fat pig at a company picnic. He will tell your teachers that you’re too stupid to ever pass a class. He degrades you in all kinds of public places, not caring whether the audience consists of your co-workers, friends, or your own mother.
Should you forgive this guy?
NO! This guy has an appalling character deformity: a nasty slanderous mouth. The first (and only) time he degrades your character, you tell this “boyfriend” to shove it. Let him know that he can’t reflect his own insecurities on you. No one has the right to put you down, not even this slander monster.
We’ve all been deceived by men before. But how you deal with his infidelity and compulsive lying is the determining factor of your self worth. Don’t ever let a guy make you feel inferior, because if you don’t stand up for yourself, he won’t either. We all know that we are strong, independent women. We don’t need immature, monstrous men by our side. What we need are respectful, chivalrous men: our very own knights in shining armor.