It’s a typical night out at the plaza for most single guys and girls. Girls go out in hopes of a fun girl’s night out, with the slight optimism of finding a nice boy–however doubtful–at a local bar. After a few drinks in, you’re loving life and that guy that impresses you with buying you and your girlfriends $2 well shots becomes your dream boy. You exchange numbers in hopes of a good morning text or lunch date the next day. After a few drunken exchanges and commitments to sushi dates and wine nights, you go your separate ways. Why didn’t he text you the next day? Or how about when you’re laying on the couch with your new boy and he said he’s going to take you to dinner and a movie next week, but instead you spend every night in while he watches football or hangs out with his friends. Why did that date never happen? Why do boys make promises they know they won’t follow through with, and why do girls believe them? We get the scoop after interviewing two anonymous UCF students.
Anonymous UCF boy
A male UCF senior admits that boys regularly say and do things that they simply don’t mean. The part where it begins a fight between the two sexes is when girls take what guys say too seriously. According to this anonymous source, “Boys might say and do things they don’t mean, but if they don’t end up calling or texting, they most likely are not playing hard to get. If they like you, they will answer your text or call you.” Our source explains how it’s not like in elementary school anymore where boys used to pick on the girl they liked the most. “Today, if a guy says things he never ends up doing, I wouldn’t count on it ever happening. It sounds harsh, but it’s better than wasting your time.”
Anonymous UCF girl
According to a female UCF junior, this scenario has happened to her countless times. She says that there are a “small percentage of guys that are looking to actually pursue more than a one night stand with a girl.” Naturally, boys are less mature than girls, but is that enough of an explanation for all the confusion? It’s not possible that every boy out there is just looking to mess with your mind. We’ve been taught since we were little girls that boys are mean to you when they like you, but in reality this usually is not the case. “I think girls should just stop giving boys the benefit of the doubt. It would relieve stress and make some of us stop looking so desperate in the end!”
It’s a typical case of pillow talk. Although it doesn’t always happen in bed while you guys are cuddled up, boys will almost always tell you what you want to hear, and you soak it up for the sake of that feeling of intimacy and somebody caring. This eventually turns into a vicious cycle. Girls get emotionally attached, while boys usually don’t. There is no good or bad guy in this situation, just a matter of not understanding the opposite sex. So next time you don’t get a text back or a promise isn’t fulfilled, it’s time to move onto the next one!