Everyone has their own way of feeling loved. For some, it’s when their partner plans a nice date for them, and for others, it’s when someone surprises them with flowers. We all have a love language. If you don’t know, the five love languages are quality time, acts of service, physical touch, gifts and words of affirmation. It’s important that you recognize your significant other’s love language, and that they recognize yours.
- Quality Time
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If your partner’s love language is quality time, then it’s very important that you make time for them where you can really focus on each other. They want you to dedicate time to just them, without any other people or issues distracting you. Someone with this love language needs to see that you value your time together, so if you let plans fall through a lot, it will really affect them.
- Physical Touch
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Someone whose love language is physical touch appreciates being physically affectionate with you. This doesn’t mean they need to be constantly touched, but it means that they feel loved when you hug or kiss them. Something that’s important to a lot of people who have this love language is knowing that you’re comfortable being physically affectionate in public. A gesture as simple as holding their hand will make them feel loved and safe. You can tell them you love them a hundred times, but it will never mean as much to them as physical touch.
- Acts of Service
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Someone whose love language is acts of service will really appreciate when you do something for them without being asked. It can be as little as tidying up the kitchen for them or cooking them dinner after a long day of work. They appreciate thoughtfulness and effort. Even more so, they appreciate when they see that you are doing something for them out of love. If your partner feels like you are just doing a chore because you have to, they will feel unhappy.
- Gifts
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At first, this love language sounds like it might be a little much. But someone whose love language is gifts doesn’t necessarily need you to break the bank to show them you love them. They appreciate spontaneity, so pick up some flowers on your way home from work, just because. Surprise them with a sentimental gift, perhaps a framed photo of the two of you, and they will feel loved and appreciated.
- Words of Affirmation
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If your partner’s love language is words of affirmation, they feel love through compliments and uplifting words. They like to know that you are proud of them and that you value them. The simplest words, like “you look beautiful in that dress,” would make anyone feel good, but to someone with this love language, it means a lot more. Conversely, negative comments hurt deeply to them and they will take it to heart more than someone else might.
It’s very important to recognize and understand your partner’s love language. By showing each other love in the way you both feel it most, you will create a stronger bond. If you don’t know yours or your partner’s love language, you can take a test online and read more in-depth about each language.