Dear No One, Especially on Valentine's Day

In my twenty years of living, I have looked up to the fairy tale stories that tell the tale of true love. The girl meets boy, boy messes up with the girl, but eventually they work out their differences and get together. Blah blah blah. You may call me cynical or realistic, but I have slowly given up on that ideal story. Maybe it’s the world we live in or the fact that looking for your soulmate is exhausting, so why not just wait?

At the restaurant that I work in, a server asked me, “Why don’t you have a boyfriend? You’re so beautiful.” I responded that I didn’t know why I had a boyfriend and that it probably wasn’t the right time for me to have one. This answer is one that I’ve been telling myself repeatedly as I marvel at a cute guy, until I see his girlfriend walking to him later. I tell myself this when I get the urge to call my ex-boyfriend, or when I’m alone and wonder if my boyfriend would enjoy the music I listen to.

As the inevitable Valentine’s Day comes closer, I have realized that being alone on this holiday doesn’t have to be pathetic. It means that the time to have your other half isn’t right now. Or that you have standards that aren’t going to be settled into anything different. Whether that is enough for society, or our own family, doesn’t matter or should alter your mindset.

This doesn’t mean that I don’t have hope for the future. Or that future someone. I know that I enjoy doing things by myself, but I hold onto the day when I meet my soulmate, and everything starts to make sense. Those questions on being single, comments on my appearance, and the endless days spent looking at other couples, will disappear into nothing.

If you are a single lady on the day of love, just focus on self-love or tell your friends and family that you love them. That beauty and appearance is what matters most. Soulmates are secondary to whatever your goals are, and what dreams you want to come true.

You are your own soulmate and best friend.   

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