The Struggle of Having a Resting Sad Face

We’re all familiar with the term “resting bitch face”, but no one ever seems to talk about the plague that is the “resting sad face” -- and trust me, it’s a thing. I am just one of many who are afflicted with this ailment, and I think it is important to bring awareness to all of those who have suffered in silence. 

Resting sad face (RSF) is especially problematic for the female -- or female-identifying -- gender. Not only do women in general already have to struggle with men telling them to perk up or smile, but those with chronic RSF are told this by men, women, children, animals...etc. I finally invested in a shirt that properly conveyed my feelings on this subject, and it’s super cute and informative for the general public. 

While resting b*tch face (RBF) results in people keeping their distance, RSF does the complete opposite. Everyone always thinks you either a) just cried, b) are about to cry, or c) a little of both. Strangers feel compelled to come up to you and ask if you’re okay. Teachers will discreetly ask if you’re okay during class (this has happened to me, unfailingly, every year since kindergarten). Peers and classmates will stop mid-conversation because they think they said something that upset you.


Of course having others care for your well-being is something to be grateful for, but for those who are feeling perfectly fine, telling them they look “sad” or “upset” all the time will heighten their insecurities and fears about their self-image.

It’s pretty well-known that your eyes tear up a little whenever you yawn (I don’t know the science behind this as I am an English major, but I went ahead and googled it). This, coupled with RSF, is K.O. -- Game Over. At this point, everyone around you is 100% sure you’re crying, and they’ll either ask you about it or subtly stare at you and wonder what your problem is.   

Trust me, I have a lot of problems, but I promise you I am not currently crying or thinking about them.

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