Obviously, in an ideal world, everyone should always be nice to everyone else. But being polite to someone does not mean you are friends, just like one drunken talk in the bathroom of a party, does not mean that person will be there for you when you are at your worse. Best friends are those who prove themselves over time through their actions.
The people on your floor, in your pledge class or in all your classes are not automatically your best friends. Even though all of these situations are great ways to meet friends, those connections do not necessarily make someone a good friend. Friendship is deeper than a lot of similarities with someone who seems appealing and convenient.
Friendship comes with mutual experience as well as mutual growth. Good friends know so much about each other not because they have shared that information with each other, but because they have gone through a lot together, such as overcoming different obstacles, and growing through experiences, and just supported each other in the challenges that are inevitable in this life. A true friend does not appear out of the blue; friendship takes time, effort, understanding and love.
Because it is so easy to confuse real friends with convenient friends, be careful who you trust, because people will be people and sometimes your “friends” will prioritize other things (such as guys, jealousy, etc) over your friendship. If you can’t imagine someone doing something horrible, it doesn’t mean that they are not capable. People are capable of anything and you can be subjected to their cruelty if you do not choose your friends wisely.
What’s wrong with being selective when it comes to your friends? Remember, QUALITY OVER QUANTITY. Choose friends who relay and believe in similar values as you do; friends who also have high standards for friends such as morals, compassion, and selflessness.
Friends are the family you get to choose, right? Choose wisely, because when you find the right people, life becomes that much better.