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A “When Harry Met Sally” Question

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Nicole Danielle Martinez Student Contributor, University of California - Riverside
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Nicole Martinez Student Contributor, University of California - Riverside
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UC Riverside chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

Long before I even watched the infamous movie When Harry Met Sally the middle school me was told by another boy (my best friend at the time) that “girls and guys can’t just be friends” Me being my naive strong headed self had to get down to the bottom of this and prove him utterly wrong. I stated that he was incorrect for several reasons, one being that WE were just friends. I found this to be a solid reason; hence I had won the debate. But then he turned the tables on me and said “Fine. What I mean is that at one point or another someone falls for the other person. It’s inevitable.” *Note: I have polished up his statement; we were in 7th grade our SAT intense vocab learning had yet to begin.  At that I was left flabbergasted; I had never EVER felt anything for this scrawny boy who I had known for several years. I refused to debate with him any further in fear that he might confess to either having had a crush on me, or worse having a crush on me. Either way I didn’t want to find out so I nodded and let him win that round.

Several years later after numerous platonic friendships with the opposite sex that statement will cross my mind at one point or another. I don’t want to believe that it’s true but I think it is to a certain extent at least. I have several guy friends who I have never deemed worthy of my affection and I am sure that I was quite unworthy of theirs as well. But the older I get the more often I find myself in various situations where when a guy approaches me I begin to wonder “Does he want to be my friend? Or is he interested in me in a non-platonic way?” Oh the horrors of being a teenager! It all got so complicated after that day. Who knew that a couple of words would change my perspective on the matter. I personally have had my share of unrequited love as well as not returning affectionate feelings toward others. Maybe this When Harry Met Sally question is not unlike the golden question of “What came first the chicken or the egg?” We’ll just never know.

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Nicole Martinez

UC Riverside

Nicole is a senior at UC Riverside where she is majoring in Media and Culture studies. She co-founded the Her Campus UC Riverside chapter her sophomore year in college. She loves to spend her free time watching The Mindy Project, Girls, Pretty Little Liars, and other shows with leading ladies. She also dabbles on tumblr, instagram (obviwearetheladies), and twitter. Mindy Kailing and Shoshanna are her spirit animals and in the near future she hopes to achieve elite status on Yelp, pursue a career in Public Relations and ultimately conquer the world.