With all the stress from exams and finalizing everything for my study abroad trip, I had the brilliant idea to do what I do best, procrastinate by doing something fun rather than productive. And that folks is how my articles are born! With two Sh*t Real College Guys Say already under our belt, let’s skip the always too long intro and get straight to what the guys discussed this week. The men were asked their opinions on winter fashion, cheating while in a committed relationship and gifts guys would actually enjoy receiving during the holidays.
If waiting for your final grades or too much family time has you stressed, just remember to smile through the pain….
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Fashion and Beauty: Winter Fashion
I’m not sure if you guys have noticed but the leather trend is in for winter, very in! You can find leather pants, skirts, tops and even bras. What are your opinions on college women wearing leather/pleather this holiday season? Is it adventurous? Too fashionable? Or a nice step away from the ordinary? With the winter months bringing in the cold weather, what’s a collegiate to wear that doesn’t involve the typical leggings, Uggs and university hoodie combination?
“If a girl looks comfy, then she looks good. I’ve always thought leather was uncomfortable. I don’t like the way it feels when I’m wearing it, and I hate the way it feels on someone else who’s wearing it. I also really dislike most boots. I wish I could give you a good reason, but I just don’t like them! The worst is when girls wear shorts and boots. It’s just confusing to me. Vests are lame too. Once again, I give leather and pleather two big thumbs down!”
-Jesse, 20, loves really old cheesy Christmas music
“I like leather, or uh, pleather on women. I’m talking jackets, though. I’m not too sure about the all leather look. Those skirts I’m not too fond of. I personally love beanies, so I would recommend beanies, perfect for any outfit and any occasion. You can truly wear it with anything! And finally, I give a big me gusta to the leggings and dress combo. I think leggings are so sexy on women. It’s tight and it shows off what yo’ mamas gave y’all!”
-Aldin, 20, still bakes cookies for Santa
Maybe not exactly what they had in mind, but who can say no to a cupcake beanie?!
“Guys love spandex. Yoga pants. Anything that contours the body is awesome. Unless you’re going for the biker look, then I’d leave the black leather out. A leather skirt to class would get attention, but not the good kind. Dresses with tights are great too, the more you hide though, the better the “effect” of wearing a dress. As for what girls should wear during the winter, I do like the sweats and hoodie look with a little beanie cap on the head. Earrings wouldn’t hurt either. Keep in mind not to be baggie with the clothes, find a good size to be fit (skin tight isn’t bad either). Aren’t jeans in all year too? Jeans work!”
-Victor, 22, buys his own presents
“Something I’ve seen a lot of girls wear this season are nice coats. They come in a lot of different colors, and a lot of my girl friends seem to be able to rock them with almost anything; jeans, skirts, shorts, leggings, etc. Plus they always look so comfy. They look like you didn’t put in too much thought into your outfit and they actually look good. Something I’ve always appreciated though, is when girls are able to wear a big crew neck. Not only will you be comfortable and warm, but it also shows some guys that you can make their clothes look a lot better and sexy. Now thats a turn on.”
-Jerry, 20, hates Christmas music(especially ones about socially awkward reindeer)
This article shows you real ways to incorporate tights into your wardrobe to make your summer clothes winter friendly!
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Love and Relationships: People Who Cheat in Relationships
I know I’m not the only one still confused about what happened this summer between Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson, or as us Tumblr fanatics like to call them, Robsten. Cheating in relationships can be painful, traumatic, but most of all tricky. Is it ever forgivable? Does the severity depend on the situation? Do you believe in once a cheater always a cheater? What’s your take on cheating in a committed relationship? Have you ever cheated or been cheated on? And most of all, what hurts more, emotional or physical cheating?
“Cheating means to me that the relationship is not satisfying or fulfilling in the way it should be. This applies to both physical and emotional cheating. Honestly, in a mature and serious relationship, there should be no distinction between the two. I define cheating as dishonest infidelity. Dishonesty destroys trust, and cheating is one of the strongest forms of dishonesty. It’s much more painful to find out that someone’s cheated on you than it is for them to be mature and honest with you. I’ve been cheated on, but the relationship wasn’t serious. Just that experience has given me some insight. It’s not an issue of forgiveness, but an issue of compatibility.”
-Jesse
“I don’t like cheating. I read a very wise meme once that read along the lines of ‘a relationship is not a test, so why cheat?’ I think any kind of cheating is bad-news, whether it be emotional or physical. Definitely physical actually. And if a person were to take back a cheater, all I have to say is that that person is playing a dangerous game! Although, I am a firm believer that people can change, I would rather have the ‘cheater’ prove it with someone else in a future relationship rather than myself.”
-Aldin
“Up till last year, I thought cheating equaled break up right away. But this year I learned a new truth. Personally, I’ve been in risky situations, but never physically cheated. To cheat physically, requires effort from both parties. Emotional cheating is hard to define, and everyone has their limits. That’s where together as a couple you draw those lines. Not sure which type of cheating is more forgivable, but forgiveness involves acknowledging the transgression, then repairing the damage, then moving on. It should not be brought up again in an argument (or maybe at all, for that matter). I still think 50% of cheaters will always be cheaters.Though it’s probably not healthy, I think if one person cheated, and the relationship stays, the other person totally has a hall pass to do whatever they want till the hall pass gets used up. I’m not saying revenge is necessary (or healthy), but you better keep your mouth shut (at least once or twice) when they want to go out and do something (not necessarily someone).”
-Victor
“Cheating is not ok. If you cheat on your partner, then you clearly don’t like them or respect them enough. In that case, you should have ended the relationship a long time ago, instead of dragging it out longer and not being happy with your partner. It’s not fair to either of you two to be in an unhappy relationship. Yet again, this is coming from someone who has trust issues. Something like cheating is something that will break the bond and trust that took so much time to make build. I would never take a cheater back. Once a cheater, always a cheater. If you are ever thinking about possibly cheating on your partner, then just end the relationship there and then. Don’t beat around the bush.”
-Jerry
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Guy’s Choice: Guy Approved Gifts for the Holidays
The media likes to joke that no one is harder to buy a gift for than a girlfriend. Listen to your parents when they tell you to not believe everything you see on television! If you have ever had to buy a gift for a boy whether he be your boyfriend or Secret Santa partner, you know how impossible guys are to shop for. To make it worse, magazines are always telling us to buy tacky gifts such as USBs shaped like turntables or some DVD collection you’ll never watch. I, along with all other women age 12-22, would like to know…what do you actually want for Christmas?!
“It’s the thought that counts!! Honestly, the best gifts I’ve ever had were homemade. Either a poem, a song, a painting, or even a birdhouse that I have no practical use for. Anyone can buy you a gift, but only someone that cares enough about you will put time and thought into a gift. If someone knows nothing about me, they can always trust musical stuff for me. I love anything that has to do with music. Headphones, posters, CDs, iTunes cards, musical instruments, etc. Other than that, it really depends on how much thought someone puts into it. I’m always appreciative of every gift I get, but I will always remember those that came from the heart of someone that cares for me.”
-Jesse
Do they Jesse?
“More often than not, I’d rather get a gift that comes from the heart. Most of all something handmade, something you can’t buy from stores, because, first off, it’s original and secondly, it shows how highly you think of me to actually want to make me a present. To me, that’s what best represents love and the holidays. . Now I’m not going to type this and act like I don’t like getting other types of gifts (i.e. video games, books, jackets, beanies, etc.), but there’s definitely more to gift-giving than the price tag.”
-Aldin
Anyone who doesn’t own this album needs a copy. Male or female!
“DVD sets for me are dumb, because I just use Netflix, or other means (cough) of what I want to see. A new CD or vintage CDs of his favorite band would be tight too! (or a mix-tape, is that too cheesy??). I know the “fashionable” guys all shop at Express. So a shirt from, or a gift card to there would be awesome or funny socks if he has a sense of humor. If he has a car, get him a little keychain to put on his car keys, or to hang off his rear view mirror. Seriously though, if you are just talking to a guy, and want to give him a gift, you can’t go wrong with a Swiss Army knife. I’m like the only guy in my circle who carries one, so everyone needs one! I also like socks. Am I an old man already? Finally, what do you get for the guy that has everything? A hug and a cute little photo album or something that you personally made. And perhaps a coupon book full of stuff you would do for him. Try and keep it PG-13 though.”
-Victor
“I like to consider myself a pretty simple guy, with simple needs. I enjoy the smaller things in life and sure big presents might be awesome, but sometimes the smaller ones make the biggest difference. I personally really like crewnecks, posters, food, or anything else that will entertain me. The length of the relationship does affect the type of gift you are giving that person. Big gifts should only be coming from relationships that have lasted more than six months or from good friends, otherwise, stick to smaller gifts. If it immediately calls their name, buy it! Always go with your extincts. You can always ask their best friend as well.”
-Jerry
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