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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at UC Riverside chapter.

Grief is sad. Grief is hard. Grief always happens. For me, grief is difficult to talk about. I usually never tell anyone when my loved ones pass away. During my four years of school, I dealt with loss almost every year of undergrad. It’s something that always happens, but even if we can never fully understand grief, I feel as if I have been finding some other ways to deal with it in a healthy way.

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The loss I am going through right now is the death of my tio, my great-uncle. My grandma texted us on aThursday that the nurse said he may not make it through the weekend. On this same day was when rapper DMX was checked into the hospital and in a vegetative state. For some reason, I thought the two of them could somehow recover and be fine. It was so strange with the timing of things.

Later that day, we went over to my grandma’s house, where my tio was staying. I’m glad we decided to go since he ended up passing away later that night. When I woke up to the news, I felt really defeated and just started to cry. I felt overwhelmed with my own family issues and having to attend work and school that Friday. I ended up eating breakfast, then after having such a bad day at work I forgot to eat something until seven hours later.

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It’s honestly hard, but this time around it felt a little easier since I was honest. I actually told people what was going on instead of hiding it. I took some time off to be with my family and tried to keep my work to a minimum.

I also wrote a lot the night before he passed away. I wrote some poems and journals, so I felt a little better. I went to Home Depot and bought some more flowers and plants so I could garden. I put on the album Lemonade and reminisced with my family about the good times with my tio.

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This weekend, I’m going to try to spend it with my family and do some of the things I enjoy so I could recharge. Grief is different for everyone and we’ll never find the right way to go through it, but I feel a little better than I did before. 

Mya Benavides

UC Riverside '21

Lover of kindness, music, and creating. Undergrad at UCR pursuing a B.A. in Sociology along with a Minor in English.
Deedee Plata

UC Riverside '22

20 year old creative writing major with a love for skincare, representation, and art. When not laying down and watching cartoons, I can be found working on my novel or browsing through baby name forums.