Here at HCUCR, we want to help you create the best college experience you can possibly have! Sometimes though, we all need a little advice. That’s why we are excited to welcome Annie an anonymous student that is here to help you with anything you may need. Feel free to ask her for advice on relationships, significant others, friends, crushes, roommates, that cutie down the hall, or anything else you want help with!
So my apartment-mate is dirty! Leaves things all over the place and has dishes in the sink for days! What do I do? -Done with this
Living with other people is definitely an experience; dealing with them is another story. Depending on your personality and your apartment-mates I would try dropping some hints, just kindly approach the situation and explain how certain things should be kept. If the mess is open for public display try creating a rotation of duties. I would highly suggest you not to clean after her as it will only reinforce the idea that she doesn’t need to clean after herself and you aren’t her mother or maid. If she slacks here and there, don’t fret, but if it is constant definitely try having “chore duties” such that every other day you two take turn washing dishes. Sometimes people need the push to get organized but you can’t overstep your boundary either. Respect goes hand in hand and in the end, open communication is the best route to choose. Wish you the best of luck.
I have trouble being affectionate and demonstrating my love to my boyfriend. I really want to change this but I don’t know how. What do you suggest?
My roommate is jealous of my relationship with my boyfriend because her boyfriend treats her like trash. She makes it obvious by talking about me to other people in our hall and I’m ready to knock her out. What should I do? -Lover&Fighter
Before you go straight to the punches, you need to go straight to the source. Communication is key. Yes, she may be bitter and yes, her approach is completely wrong but maybe she needs help and a lending ear, or a simple friend. Although you should not be singled out for your relationship, it seems that this is more of an envious cry out for help. The way I see it, she wants what you have. She wants the great relationship she sees with the boy she cares for. You cannot fix her problems or save her relationship, but you can take the time to talk instead of abruptly fighting fire with fire. You are fortunate enough to be in a great relationship with your boyfriend and maybe you can take the step forward with good intentions and open communication to foster a better relationship with your roommate. Take this in stride with patience and willingness and hopefully this will just be a bump in the road.
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