I know a lot of you are social busy girls who, like me, are always on the go. However, sometimes, when I’m alone and have finished my to-do list for the day, I don’t know what to do with myself and start to feel lonely. This semester, I had to learn how to be more independent and understand that having free time doesn’t mean everyone else has it too. Everyone is on their own version of the “grind,” and I had to find ways to keep myself occupied without relying on others. Through trial and error, I’ve learned how to use my extra time in ways that feel fulfilling rather than lonely.
1. Taking CAre of myself
When I have a few extra minutes on my hands, the very first thing I try to do is take care of myself. Whether that is physically or mentally, I make an effort to take that extra step to make myself feel good. This can look like heading to the gym, painting my nails, taking an everything shower, or even styling my hair. Taking this intentional time for myself always has a positive effect on the rest of my day and helps me feel more grounded.
2. Going back to the roots
When I really don’t know what to do, I try to think back to the activities I used to enjoy as a kid or even before starting university. These familiar activities often make it easier to enjoy my own company. This weekend was especially calm for me, so with the extra time, I baked cookies, played board games with my family, and actually sat down to watch a movie—which I hadn’t done in forever. Going back to pre-university activities helps fill the gaps in my schedule while also allowing me to unwind and do something that genuinely brings me joy.
3. Enjoying time with myself and others
As I’ve mentioned before, I truly enjoy spending time with others, so being alone in silence can be challenging for me. Even if you’re not willing or able to commute, there are always people in your life who miss you and would love to talk or catch up. Picking up your phone and calling someone you’ve been thinking about can be surprisingly healing. If those loved ones aren’t available, it’s important to still do something for yourself. Watching your favorite show, making your favorite drink, taking a bubble bath, or picking up a book you’ve been meaning to read can turn alone time into something comforting. Learning to do what you love and appreciating moments of solitude has helped me enjoy being alone rather than fear it.
Learning to be alone has taught me that free time isn’t something to fear, but something to embrace. By taking care of myself, reconnecting with old hobbies, and finding comfort in simple moments, I’ve started to see solitude as fulfilling rather than lonely. Sometimes, the best company you can have is your own.