Turn on Netflix and watch Gilmore Girls.
I grew up watching Gilmore Girls and I couldn’t have been more invested in seeing Rory Gilmore’s character grow. More importantly, her love interests were all very interesting. One in particular is the adventurous, rich, charming, flirty, and some might argue manipulative… Logan Huntzberger! The younger me watching reruns of this show had held myself to such high expectations to make it to Yale like Rory did, but back then, I also strived for something that I thought was more attainable: meeting my Logan Huntzberger in the second term of my second year of post-secondary school! Why? Because that’s what happened to Rory, and she became more carefree because of it. Also, people say all the time that you meet your longterm friendships and relationships in post-secondary, so that also pressured me into feeling that way. (Caution: Spoilers Ahead)
Let’s get into the tea!
So, one of the reasons why I always wanted to meet my Logan Huntzberger was to deal with the situations that Rory handled poorly, but better! For example, pouring a cold glass of water on Logan’s mother’s clothes. It doesn’t stain, but sure gets the point across. Another oddly specific idea was when Rory told Logan that his dad told her that she didn’t have what it takes to be a journalist! She told Logan about this exchange eventually, but it took her an awfully long time. Instead, shortly after the the talk with Logan’s father, Rory acted impulsively at Logan’s sister’s birthday party by being overly adventurous and stealing a yacht, after deciding to stop attending Yale and embark on her journalist dreams!
- First of all, stealing a boat isn’t a great idea for anyone’s reputation.
- Why take Mr. Huntzberger’s word for it that she wasn’t good enough when he didn’t see her full potential? At least given that she had only really attended his meetings to take notes and give him coffee.
- Why does living in her grandparents’ pool house sound like a better idea than just switching her major to something else and moving in with her best friend, Paris. Thanks to Rory’s grandparents, everything Yale-related had been gifted to her and was fully covered!
- Getting that job at the D.A.R. (Daughters of the American Revolution) that her grandmother and all her friends were a part of seem to me like another awful idea because it meant going against her own mother, with whom she was best friends with. Her mother had previously gone to her parents’ house to discuss Rory being mistreated at the Huntzberger house in the hopes of getting them on board with her plan: to set Rory back on track as a happy and driven lover of school.
As I’ve grown, I’ve come to learn two lessons regarding Rory and Logan’s relationship.
The first lesson I’ve learned is that Logan Huntzberger changed Rory in ways that went against her own morals, dreams, and beliefs. Although I still feel like it’s okay to step outside of one’s comfort zone and meet people who will help your emotional growth, in the end, Logan created a gap between Rory and three valuable relationships she had had: her mother, her education, and her dream of becoming a well-travelled journalist. Rather than continuing with her Yale education and maintaining her friendships, she was living in her grandparents’ pool house and working a job that didn’t fit her personality. After all, Rory wasn’t a married woman with kids and grandkids who owned a home and could afford anything. She was the practical, quick-witted, and coffee-addicted Rory Gilmore her mother raised and trained her to be!
The second lesson I learned as I binge-watched this show was that even if I could hypothetically do a better job at handling Rory’s unfortunate situations with Logan, I still don’t need a Logan Huntzberger that I met in the second term of my second year of post-secondary! Society puts so much pressure on those who are single to find a person to fill all the voids. Gilmore and Huntzberger loved each other, but it’s okay that I don’t have that yet. There really shouldn’t be any rush whatsoever to find someone because when the time is right, it’ll happen. Rory needed Logan to help her grow in many ways outside of her academics and her family life, but she turned him down on her long-awaited graduation day from Yale.
So, Here’s where i stand…
I’m currently in the second term of my second year at the University of Ottawa and I have come to terms with not yet meeting the man I will live happily ever after with. The entire ‘happily ever after’ phenomena is a whole other conversation on its own that I’m sure I’ll unravel some other time. But for now, I guess I won’t be meeting my Logan Huntzberger, and that’s okay!