Let’s face it ladies: long distance relationships suck. How are we supposed to be cuddly and cute when our lovers are so far out of reach? Speaking from experience (almost 3 years and counting!) keeping the spark alive can be tough, but also completely doable. Just remember to trust your gut and follow these simple rules.
Communication:
DO make sure to talk on a daily basis. Now, I’m not saying you have to have a full-blown heart to heart on the regular; sometimes just a simple good morning text or thinking of you phone call in-between classes is enough to let your beau know they’re on your mind.
DON’T only use text messaging or go more than a couple days without speaking. Texting is great for little heartfelt messages, but other means of communication (like Skype or a phone call) can make all the difference.
Going Out:
DO take some time to be with your friends and enjoy yourself. Being in a relationship is great, but enjoying college on your own is also important. Independence is key.
DON’T drunk call/text. Trust me, “I lobVe you soOo muxh” will not get you the response you’re looking for.
Honesty:
DO share your feelings. Joys, fears, worries, and doubts, are only some that are applicable here. Even things that are hard to talk about need to be discussed. Often times letting it all out will only benefit the relationship, whereas keeping it bottled up could be detrimental.
DON’T share everything. Your significant other doesn’t want to hear about that wasted dude flirting with you at the frat party. Don’t lie but leave out unnecessary information that might cause jealousy or discomfort (unless specifically asked about).
Visiting:
DO take turns visiting. Depending on how far you have to travel and different class commitments, this can be tricky, but scheduling trips ahead of time can help ease the anxiety of planning.
DON’T visit too often. Once a month is probably a good cut-off point. While it’s awesome to experience the I go to college with my guy life, the reality is you don’t. Make the effort to see each other but don’t disregard your own school and circle of friends.
Trust:
DO have faith that your partner is staying true to you. Constantly questioning or accusing him will only lead to unwanted conflict.
DON’T do anything that you wouldn’t want your partner to do. Being drunk is not an excuse. Long distance relationships require serious commitment and if trust is lost it’s very hard to get back.
When it comes down to it, only you can determine the fate of your LDR. Above all, pay no mind to the myth that long distance never works. If it works for you then stay strong and stay positive!
