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Sometimes you just don’t want to watch a straightforward video about what you are dealing with. Most of the time we know what’s going on, or if we don’t, we don’t want to face it. Which is normal, I mean, who wants to deal with their own things, especially right now? Loneliness is a legitimate thing, and in this era of self-care that can undoubtedly be toxic at times. It’s preached that spending time with yourself is the only way to allow comfort into your life. Well, what about people that already are comfortable with themselves? Or the people that genuinely don’t want to be alone and figure themselves out entirely yet? I’ve heard things said like “You shouldn’t need other people to feel whole” or “think of it as time to get to know yourself better” and “you’re your own best friend.” All of these I wholeheartedly agree with, but it’s nearly impossible to abide by these after being in a pandemic for several months.Â
Furthermore, saying these to a college student in the middle of February doesn’t really help. These phrases tend to invalidate feelings of loneliness, and shame an individual for feeling this way, furthering a cycle of hopelessness. It’s almost as if only until you have become so well acquainted with yourself, do you deserve human connection. Which is why this Youtuber has really helped solidify all of that and say, look, it’s okay to not be okay. You don’t need to have everything together on your own, to then want human interaction. It’s incredibly normal. The way she talks and composes herself as well is great because she’s direct and to the point, with a hint of cynicism so it feels authentic and not fake. She covers not only topics relating to the pandemic, but also how money and mental health are related, as well as relationships. In hopes of others feeling better and more at ease like I have, here are 5 videos that have helped me navigate my thoughts and experiences:
1.  How to stay connected during covid – YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N1ahgG1K7M8
2. Can I love someone if I don’t love myself?Â
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qEB6o7dlGe4
3. Why You’re So Sad All The Time – YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=28nwcAJstqIÂ
4. 3 habits that helped me get my life together – YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=odYCiuEtGjw