The whole universe knows that I have the worst luck with everything, especially men, well technically boys. Even though I can cross the lines sometimes, I still try to respect myself. I do not believe that men should treat us women, or other men for that fact, like trash.
Saying “men are trash” has become popular as we collectively share stories on how men have screwed us over. It’s fun to see and relate to other people around the world about things men do that make them trash. It’s also a great reminder that we ourselves are diamonds.
These are the times I have witnessed men being trash or when men have PERSONALLY victimized me:
The guy who ghosted you, but won’t let you ghost him…
I was interested in this guy who I talked to a few times every month, and then we wouldn’t speak to each other. But, once I started liking him a bit more, I wanted to talk to him more. So, I texted him the next day after hanging out with him once if he wanted to hang out (winky face hangout) and did not get a response. Three days later, no response. One week later, no response. I sent a drunk text message saying I never wanted to speak to him again and I deleted him off my social media. The next day, I get a text from him asking if I was mad at him.
DUH.
The guy who hits on you, and then tells you your friend is hot…
One night, I was dancing at a popular IC bar with my roommate having fun with the girls kind of night and wasn’t expecting to be attracted to anyone. This guy starts giving me the “drunken eyes” across the dance floor. He comes up and compliments me on my dancing and asks me to dance with him and starts telling me that I’m pretty. My roommate comes over to find me and starts to dance. Then his attention shifts over. He comes back to me and grabs my butt, only to whisper in my ear, “your friend is really hot.” Gee, thanks.
When a guy you’ve been talking to makes out with another girl…
Happy New Years Eve to me as I was downtown celebrating with my friends the coming of 2018 when I got a text from a guy I occasionally talked to whenever he would pass the town. He told me that he was in town for New Years Eve and would possibly see me later, and I replied, “sure, I’m going to go hang out with my friends right now.” While I am at a bar celebrating, I see a familiar face when I get up from my booth, and saw it was the guy with another girl. This boy (he was definitely not a man because of how immature he was being) was obviously playing the field. I sent a passive-aggressive text message saying, “looks like you found someone else to hang out with.” He responds, “I just saw you.” The clock hit midnight, and saw him making out with the girl who he was sitting next to.
The guy who texts you at 2 a.m. asking if you’re D.T.F…
I wake up at 8 a.m. and check my phone to see that I had received three text messages from an unknown/deleted number and open them up. Messages from him at 2 a.m.: “Hey u up?” and “Wanna s*** my c***?.” My response? See for yourself.
*Hefty trash bag alert: He calls you ugly since you don’t text back because you’re asleep, but he thinks you’re not interested, and who wouldn’t be interested in this gorgeous trash bag?!
The guy who tells you you’re cute then tells you you’re ugly/fat…
I was walking downtown IC with my friends when this guy catcalls me and loudly whispers in my ear, “nice t*tties.” Of course, I responded with a “you’re a disgusting person.” His response? “You’re fat and ugly anyways!”
When a guy catcalls…
What if that was your mom or sister or niece? WTF. #StopCatcalling2k18
When they tell you that you expect too much after talking to them for months…
I had been talking to this guy for many months when I finally dropped the bomb of asking him what was going on with us. He beat around the bush for a little bit and asked me what I expected. I told him we talked every day about everything, so it seems more serious than a friendship. His response? “You’re expecting way too much way too fast.” A few months later, he was at Starbucks with another girl and I stopped talking to him. A total of seven months wasted on some guy who never saw anything with me.
When they tell you they love you, but want to have sex with other people…
I had been seeing this guy for six months. It felt as if we were dating since we were only seeing each other. While visiting him in Iowa City during the summer, while he stayed for an internship, we were cuddling when he asked me if I loved him. I was shocked, and said of course because honestly, I did (I thought I did?). He was happy I had said it, but I wasn’t going to ask him because no one wants to be put on the spot. He starts going on a rant about how his feelings had grown and I knew what he was going to say. He said he loved me. I then asked him why he wouldn’t make it official and be with me, his response? “I still want to have sex with other people.” And boy, did he.
While these are just some of my stories and it seems like I have the worst luck, I’m not the only one who thinks men are trash. Here’s some stories shared from my friends.
Stories from others:
- My boyfriend of two months told me that I should give up on my dreams so we can get serious and start a family. – Brendan, 21
- Guys that will only hit you up to hook up when they feel like it, but turn you down every time you hit them up. – Alex, 21
- I was breaking up with my boyfriend of 4.5 years and he had absolutely nothing to say. – M, 20′
- A guy I didn’t even know I was dating broke up with me via text then left my stuff outside my apartment door. – Christine, 22
Men, please stop.