Let me explain the scenario I was given. You, a girl, work as a cashier somewhere; let’s say Bruegger’s or Krispy Kreme or whatever breakfast places there are in Iowa, and every Friday this cute guy that you like because he’s a cute guy comes in and gets some food from you. Every Friday you hope that he’s going to come in with the biggest bouquet of roses and tastiest chocolates in a giant heart-shaped box that you have ever seen or tasted.
Sadly, that has not to happen. Besides a few times exchanging a “Have a good day!” not much has been said between the two of you.
Thus the question arises, how do I get him to talk to me like a person, and ultimately get him to ask me out. If he’s been seeing you for a while and has you pegged as “that cashier girl,” you’ve got to get him out of his routine and that picture of you out of his head.
The first step is to talk to him about something other than what kind of cream cheese he wants on his donut. Compliment him on something or say, “Wow that’s a Suicide Silence shirt? I LOVE that band!” Something simple enough to set you apart from the wall and the old guy who’s the other cashier, but at the same time makes a connection and gets a conversation to talk about.
Him: Oh yeah they’re just the bees knees! Have you listened to their new album, No Time to Bleed?
You: Why yes I did! It was quite delightful!
Him: Golly gee whiz… I know this might be a bit forward but, gosh, do you want to go to an iwrestledabearonce show next week? They’re not quite Suicide Silence… but they sure
You: That sounds swell!
That’s just an example of the most common scenario that will happen if you talk to the guy. It really is as simple as getting a guy to start talking. One of the main differences between guys and girls is that, usually, girls are more willing to talk about themselves/talk in general to guys that they aren’t interested in at all. A guy that’s interested tends to maintain eye contact more often and make a conversation longer. So if the guy you compliment or make whatever connection to talks back and seems interested in the conversation, it’s more likely that they’re interested in you.
Not always the case, but let’s pretend it is.
This guy is showing some signs of interest and now talking to you for pretty much the first time ever. Is that good enough? Are you really going to settle for a guy you talk to once and now will say “hi” in a more familiar way?
Nah.
You’re going to get some digits, at least.
To accomplish this you’ve got to be willing to move in for the kill. Do the usual girl flirting things: laugh at what they say that’s supposed to be funny and isn’t, twirl your hair and do whatever else makes a guys eyes wander places, etc. The thing you need to do to put yourself above everything else is give him a very clear chance to ask you out. Ask him what he’s doing over the weekend of if he been to whatever party or what bar he likes. You can hint at needing to be shown around somewhere, “Oh I’ve never been to the Blue Moose… where is that again? Next door? No way!”
There’s a chance that the guy is busy or the store is busy or something inconvenient and out of your control is happening, at that point the best thing might be to try to make other time for another talk. Maybe mention when you get off work and that he should stop by to say hey around then.
Making the first “move” may not be what you want to do, but it’s not the worst thing to happen and will hopefully make him make a real move soon.
Overall, just getting a guy to talk is the key. What happens after that is due to the sparks that fly between you two!
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at U Iowa chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.