Being in a college environment comes with so many factors that build the experience: academics, clubs, sports, campus activities, parties, friendships, and relationships. Embedded in all of these things is the social aspect of college. Almost everything done in college involves interacting with people and developing relationships with your classmates, friends, and professors. As a true extrovert, I thrive in environments that provide this experience, and love spending time with other people 24/7. However, during my first semester, I was drained from all the time I spent with other people. Even more so, I was losing myself in a sea of socializing and forgot to focus on arguably the most important person in my life: me! So, through a lot of learning and trial and error, I found a balance of spending time with others and myself that has made me appreciate my alone time so much more. Here are some tips and tricks I’ve learned about the benefits of being your own best friend.
Divide your TIME TO FIT Your needs
On a scale from introvert to extrovert, where do you fall? The first thing to do when establishing some alone time is to figure out how much of it you need. As I mentioned, I am an extreme extrovert who loves to be around positive, inviting energy. However, even I have a limit when I know I need to take some time alone. Having a little alone time in the morning, the middle of the day, and at night works for me to create a nice balance. Remember, no amount of time is too little or too much; it’s just about what works for you.
So, What’s Your niche?
Everyone has activities they love to do with other people, and the same goes for activities you like to do alone. Figure out what you enjoy doing alone. This can be anything, such as going on a walk, working out, doing homework, listening to music, watching your favorite show, journaling, or any other hobby you have. Alone time will give you the opportunity to explore more hobbies or discover new things you love to do. During the COVID-19 lockdown, I learned how to braid my own hair. Over winter break, I figured out how to crochet and knit and make scarves. Being alone has the perks of being able to explore new things you may enjoy.
The best part: No expectations!
When you are alone, you have the freedom of doing anything you want. Allow yourself to self-explore, get comfortable, and get to know yourself. It’s the purest form of self-love and self-care and will make you a better person for relationships and friendships in the future. So don’t be shy! Spend some quality time with yourself to refuel your social battery and mood.
