Ask Her: Third Edition

Piscis Martinez Student Contributor, Texas State University

Nina Bailey Student Contributor, Texas State University

Zoie Tidmore Student Contributor, Texas State University

Lilianna Rodriguez Student Contributor, Texas State University

Elise Ramos Student Contributor, Texas State University

Cara Cervenka Student Contributor, Texas State University

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at TX State chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

Welcome back to Ask Her, your go-to advice column for all things college life, friendships, relationships, and everything in between. Whether you’re dealing with an overstepping roommate, mixed signals from a love interest, or just need some solid girl-to-girl advice, we’ve got you covered.

This week, we’re diving into some messy (and oh-so-relatable) situations: how to set boundaries when your roommate assumes you’re their personal maid, navigating a friendship that’s turning into a confusing situationship, and more. No topic is off-limits, so if you’ve got a burning question, you know where to send it.

Let’s get into it!

XO,
The Ask Her Team

How do you deal with roommates where you guys all signed on as friends, but now there’s a huge divide and basically, there are sides now.

Hey, roommate issues are the WORST. It’s awful to feel like you’re not welcome in your own home. I think the best thing to do in that situation is to have a group meeting. You can not walk around on eggshells with your roommates and have the air feel tense. It’s best to put it all out there so that y’all can move past it. Having a conversation initially is always the best option; you never know where the miscommunication might have been or what the other person is feeling. A simple coffee date where you try to see the other person’s side can do wonders. In the end, if you can’t seem to move past this understanding and you’ve tried to communicate, at least you know that you’ve done your best to resolve this. If they don’t want to move past it, I would say pretend everything is normal and don’t entertain the drama (speaking from experience).

Wishing you luck!

XO,

Elise & Cara!

F21, needing roommate advice!!! She believes that I’m the “chore girl” and expects me to clean everything, even though I never gave any indication that I like cleaning after her! How do I get out of this problem without sounding rude?

Dear Roommate Hater,

We completely understand where you are coming from. There are two ways to go about it. One way is to stop doing the chores completely; maybe they will catch the hint. But if you don’t want to live in a pigsty for a little bit, have a serious conversation with her. Establishing a cleaning schedule or a rule about cleaning up after yourselves right away could lead to a change in habits. Yet, if all fails and the roommate doesn’t catch on, just do your own chores around the apartment. They will eventually learn the hard way that you won’t do them anymore.

Wishing you the best and cleanest apartment,

Lilianna & Piscis!

19 y/o, female, homoerotic friendship .. ok so let me explain. This girl and I started as friends and we are both openly out lesbians. I always thought she was attractive, but I kept it as a friend in the beginning. Then, we started to explore the idea of the talking stage and literally THREE DAYS IN.. she went back on her word and said she wasn’t ready after ghosting me for a couple of days. Which I mean is fine, like, I’d rather her be honest then just leave me hanging completely, but… dude, are you fr?? THEN she’ll text me saying stuff like she misses me and she’s thinking of me… WHAT??? How should I handle this? Cut her off or talk to her about it? Oh, and also, she has stood me up multiple times!!

Dear Last Lovergirl at TXST,

You never deserve to be treated like this! It’s not okay for someone to lead you on, let alone someone you thought was a friend. She’s giving you so many mixed signals that it seems not worth it. Ghosting, for me, is always unacceptable behavior, so you lost me right there. However, she might have internal fears she must handle before being in a relationship. I need closure, so I’d personally talk to her and get what you are feeling out there, explain that you can’t talk to her anymore, and cut it off there. But if you really value her as a friend and want to keep her around, SET BOUNDARIES. Make your stance on the relationship clear, and if she breaks those lines, you know it’s time to let go. You need to be selfish with your feelings sometimes. Everyone deserves to have respect in any relationship, and she is not respecting you!

Good luck, and keep us updated.

Nina & Zoie!

Piscis Martinez

TX State '27

Piscis Martinez is the Editor-in-Chief of Her Campus at Texas State University, where she leads the chapter’s editorial vision, oversees writers and editors, and manages weekly publishing in alignment with national Her Campus Media standards. She is especially passionate about personal essays, advice columns, and lifestyle content that center authenticity, vulnerability, and campus culture. In her role, Piscis focuses on building clear systems, strengthening editing workflows, and fostering a supportive environment where writers feel confident developing their voices.

Beyond Her Campus, Piscis is a Public Relations major at Texas State University with double minors in Human Resources and Communication Studies. She also works as a peer consultant at the University Writing Center, where she supports students one-on-one in improving clarity, structure, and confidence in their writing across disciplines. Since joining Her Campus in Fall 2024, Piscis has grown within the organization as a writer, Section Editor, Senior Editor, and now Editor-in-Chief, gaining hands-on experience in editorial leadership and team development at every level.

Outside of work and class, Piscis enjoys drinking coffee, watching reality TV, and finding comfort in the small routines that keep her grounded during busy semesters. Whether she is editing an article late at night or brainstorming new ideas with her team, she is always excited to help Her Campus writers grow, feel supported, and take pride in their work.

Nina Bailey

TX State '25

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Zoie Tidmore

TX State '27

Zoie Tidmore is a Senior Editor and Writer for the Texas State University chapter of Her Campus, where she plays a key role in leading the editorial team and upholding Her Campus Media’s publishing standards. In her position, Zoie oversees a team of eight writers, guiding them through the writing and editing process to ensure clarity, consistency, and authenticity across all published content. She supports writers in developing strong pitches, refining drafts, and maintaining the chapter’s voice, while also contributing her own work to the site. Zoie is particularly interested in covering politics, media, and culture, with a focus on how these areas impact college students and younger audiences.

Outside of Her Campus, Zoie is a Journalism major at Texas State University with minors in Media Studies and Political Science. She previously worked as a writer for The University Star, where she learned how to cover stories relevant to the campus and local community. Zoie joined Her Campus in Spring 2025 as a writer and has since grown into her role as Senior Editor, gaining more experience in editing, mentoring writers, and contributing to the chapter’s editorial leadership.

When she’s not working on her degree or editing articles, Zoie enjoys reading romance novels, listening to music, and spending time with friends and family. She is an aspiring journalist who hopes to educate and inform others about issues shaping the future of the world, using storytelling as a way to create understanding and spark meaningful conversations.

Lilianna Rodriguez

TX State '27

Lilianna Rodriguez is a junior at Texas State University. Her major is Journalism, and her minor is film studies. In Lilianna's free time, she can be seen reading or hanging out with friends.
- XOXO from Lilianna!

Elise Ramos

TX State '28

Elise is a Senior Editor for HerCampus at Texas State University, where she helps lead the editorial team in producing high-quality written content. She oversees six writers, ensuring clarity, accuracy, and consistency across all publications.

Beyond HerCampus, Elise publishes her writing on her personal blog, The Older Sister Diaries. She is also involved with LEWK Magazine, where she curates and styles outfits for models in alignment with each show’s theme and creative vision. Additionally, Elise works as a writing consultant at the University Writing Center, providing one-on-one and small-group support to undergraduate and graduate students across disciplines. In this role, she offers constructive feedback on organization, clarity, argumentation, and academic conventions.

Elise is currently a sophomore majoring in English with a minor in Physician Assistant Studies.

In her free time, Elise enjoys expressing her creativity through crochet, painting, and drawing, as well as planning meaningful hangouts with friends. She adores slow mornings, stray cats, and lavender matcha and would gladly accept the chance to be a teenager in the year 2000.

Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/eliseram
Instagram: elisecovr

Cara Cervenka

TX State '25

Cara is a journalism major at Texas State University. She writes for The University Star, in the Life & Arts section, as well as serving as Editor In Chief of the TXST Chapter of Her Campus. She has an unwavering love for boba tea, live music, disneyland, Taylor Swift and reading! .𖥔 ݁ ˖ִ ࣪⚝₊ ⊹˚ 𓂃🖊

Ask Her: Third Edition

How do you deal with roommates where you guys all signed on as friends, but now there’s a huge divide and basically, there are sides now.

F21, needing roommate advice!!! She believes that I’m the “chore girl” and expects me to clean everything, even though I never gave any indication that I like cleaning after her! How do I get out of this problem without sounding rude?

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