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What Happened *Over Winter Break*? Ex’s, Vacations, & Drinking

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Tufts chapter.

 

 
 
So, classes start in 2 days…but, it turns out many of you Jumbos had some very interesting breaks. Check out What Happened *Over Winter Break* and what we (BK and JT) have to say about your expeditions…
 
 
 
My high school boyfriend and I broke up in June because I wanted to be single over the summer before we both went to different colleges. I didn’t regret my decision at all—I hooked up with a lot of boys last summer and fall semester without thinking twice about my ex. But when I came home for break, I found out he had a new college girlfriend, and he brought her home for Christmas to meet his parents… I’m so angry and hurt. I’m technically the one who called it off, but I’m seriously regretting my decision. Help!!! 
 
You JUST found out about her? Don’t you Facebook stalk your ex…? Anyway, this is a classic case of wanting what you can’t have. By hooking up with a bunch of guys at home and at school, you showed him you clearly didn’t want a boyfriend anymore. That is, until he was with someone else. It’s hard to accept your ex has moved on, but you’ve proven you’re capable of moving on also. Once you get back to school, you’ll realized how good it feels not to have a ball and chain holding you back.
 
 
 
Instead of going home and hanging with friends during break, my parents made me go to my grandparent’s house in Tampa. I didn’t have a sip to drink for three weeks and was going crazy! I ended up drinking way too much wine at my Grandpa’s 80th…what did college turn me into? I’ve never been this way before!
 
Well, as much as we’re sure you love and adore your grandparents, who wouldn’t go crazy after a month alone with them? We think it didn’t have as much to do with alcohol as it did with wanting some fun. What’s wrong with that? However, it’s never cute to be the drunkest girl at the party…especially at a family affair. So, if you really think you have a problem, talk to someone you trust about it.  After all, the college drinking scene can be a lot to handle, no pun intended.
 
 
 
At the start of break, I started hooking up with this senior in my old high school (I’m a sophomore at Tufts) who I always thought was cute. At first it was super casual, but now that I’m about to go back to school, I’m realizing how much I’m gonna miss him. He’s even talking about applying to Tufts. I really like him and can’t imagine hooking up with anyone else. 
 
Aw, that’s adorable. It all seems so ideal, until you freak out over pics of him with another girl at semi-formal. And let’s be honest, as a college sophomore, you should not still be looking at photos of high school dances. Do you see our point? What you had was a nice winter break fling. We don’t doubt you’ll miss him, and maybe you’ll be hookup buddies every time you’re home for break. But for the time being, you should focus on college boys, and he should do the same with high school girls. And let him apply to Tufts, if he really ends up coming, we’d love to see if you actually still cared. We’ll bet you don’t.
 
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I hooked up with this really hot junior right before I went home for break in December. I friended him right away and was stalking him all of winter break…turns out he has girlfriend from high school. I feel like such a home-wrecker!! What do I do?!
 
Why do you feel so much guilt if it’s clear this guy feels none at all? Your only crime is friending and stalking someone you hooked up with once. We suggest you stay away from this guy, if he was so quick to cheat on his girlfriend of four plus years, he’s done it before.
 
 
 
I have a boyfriend at Tufts, but over break I was in the Bahamas with my family and I got really drunk and hooked up with the bartender at a bar my sister and I went to. I felt so awkward the next morning when he was serving drinks by the pool, so I pretended not to know him. We ran into each other at a club another night and he kept asking for my number, so I just gave it to him, knowing I was leaving the next day and would never see him. He’s been texting me non-stop!!! He’s saying he wants to see me when he comes to “visit friends” in Boston…I’m freaking out that my boyfriend is gonna see his texts and go insane.
 
On one hand, this guy sounds like a total stalker. On the other hand, he probably thinks you’re into him. I mean, you did hook up with him and then give him your number. And since you seem like a sweet girl, you’ve probably been texting him back. We believe that you just want him to go away, but you’ve been sending mixed messages. It’s time to send a straight-forward and honest one: From now on can you text me on my US phone? I gave you my international number by accident! And then send him the number of someone you really want to mess with. Delete all his texts from your phone and block his number. You’ll probably appreciate your BF much more after dealing with this psychopath. 
 
 
 
Over break I did something I would NEVER do if I was in the right state of mind….I had a threesome with my friend from high school and her boyfriend. I know my friend would never tell anyone because she was a little embarrassed also, but her boyfriend is announcing it to anyone who will listen. It’s bad enough that most people in my town know; I’m terrified that it’ll get back to Tufts. I don’t wanna have that rep!!
 
Honey, we have one piece of advice for you: deny, deny, deny.  Unless there’s a video circling the web, there’s no evidence besides one guy’s word. And we all know how much that’s worth. So relax and laugh it off. And about the news of your sexcapade traveling to Tufts, what makes you think people will care? Crazier things have happened. Trust us. 
 
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Alex Horvitz is a junior at Tufts University in Boston, MA. She is double-majoring in Economics and Psychology and minoring in Communications and Media Studies. With a passion for beauty blogging, Alex is a contributing beauty blogger for Her Campus. Alex is a Co-President of Her Campus Tufts and she also worked as a Sales & Marketing Associate for Her Campus during the Summer of 2012. Email AlexHorvitz@hercampus.com with questions or connect with her on Twitter @Alex_Horvitz or LinkedIn!