Hey, ‘bos. Love Guru here, and this week I want to touch up on a subject that comes near and dear to my heart⎯people that screenshot personal conversations.
Dear Love Guru,
I’ve been trying out this new thing where I just say what I want to guys, and I think it has backfired on me. Recently, my roommate just told me that she overheard some guys talking about what I’ve messaged this guy, and the group was saying rude things about me. It sucks because I really like the guy, but I feel betrayed because he is showing people messages that were only meant for his eyes. What should I do?
-Young and Naïve
Dear Young and Naïve,
In this day and age, everything we write through the media or even through texts can be saved and sent to just about anyone. Think about all of the celebrity nude scandals in 2015; unfortunately, that’s become the norm. The problem here isn’t the screenshot⎯it’s the guy. A man that is confident in himself might be intrigued by someone who takes the leap and says what she wants. He wouldn’t screenshot the conversation and send it to his friends; he would keep it between the two of you. A man who is immature will screenshot the conversations and share them with his friends, and confident women who know what they want might intimidate these types of guys. I recommend that you stop talking to this guy. He clearly doesn’t value the fact that you are taking a risk to get to know him, and that’s not fair to you. Teenage boys are allowed to screenshot conversations, but men that are worth your time really shouldn’t.
Dear Love Guru,
Recently, my crush’s close friend came on to me, and told me that my crush spoke badly about me and took screenshots of our conversations. He said that he was coming clean because he believed in the greater good, but I don’t really trust this. What am I supposed to do now?
-Caught in a Love Triangle
Dear Caught in a Love Triangle,
This guy sounds like a rat. If he’s a double agent with his good friend, why do you think he won’t do the same to you? He didn’t do it for you; he did it cause he wanted to get with you, and that’s pathetic. This guy is not worth your time, and your crush isn’t either. Any guy who talks badly about you definitely doesn’t deserve you. It’s time to cut your losses and move on. If you want to feel a little better, call them both out. Their behavior is not okay, and you don’t want another girl to fall victim to men like this.
That’s all for this week, ‘bos! Keep handing in your latest love dilemmas here, and I’ll get back to you on my next post.