Get some quality musings by our token mentors, the ever-masculine Snowdin, and the pretty-in-pink Summer Lovin!
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Summer Lovin: I believe in lust at first sight not love. Looks are important, its not shallow to admit this, it is shallow however if this is your only criteria. I think it takes more then seeing someone to know how you really feel about them; you have to get to know someone and see how you interact with them. Real love is serious and deep,I don’t think it can be found in a look. I do believe in “love” at first kiss though. If you’ve ever had a kiss with someone that felt like no other kiss you know what I’m talking about, I’m talking about that surge of energy, butterflies in your stomach kind of feeling- maybe love is too strong a word but I think you can get a sense of having a connection with someone through a simple kiss.
Snowdin: Yes. Maybe it’s the romantic in me, but I think you can see somebody and fall in love with them. They say that the eyes are the windows to the soul, and I think there’s some truth to that. I’m not saying that every time you fall for someone right away it’s love, but I think we’ve all had that moment where we see someone and want to be with them. Love at first sight is an initial attraction that turns into something more and while rare, especially in an age of second guessing and always looking for something better, it happens and it makes life more interesting thinking its out there.
Can you have a friendship with a person of the sex you’re attracted to?
Summer Lovin: I know that Snowdin is going to say its not possible, and it probably isn’t for guys but as a female I think it is. I have male friends that I will never (EVER) want to be with sexually. Of course at some level I think that my male friends are cute, personality wise, looks wise, etc, I mean that’s why I’m friends with them- because at some level I like them, but in no way does that mean I’m sexually attracted to them. I find that friendships with sexual undercurrents tend to get weird when one person starts an intimate relationship with some else; those relationships can of course be maintained because your just friends (right?).
Snowdin: Most people are expecting me to say that a guy can’t be friends with a girl without wanting to have sex with her, but the thing is that men and women are meant to have sexual tension between them. This definitely occurs on a wide spectrum, with some people barely having any sexual tension, others ending up hooking up and either having the holy grail of friends with benefits (unlikely), falling for each other, or (most likely) having to deal with one liking the other. Now don’t get angry with me for what I’ve said and think that all your friends of the opposite sex have some secret desire for you, because that’s not the case. Most likely you two have some sort friendly flirting going on and that’s it. Sexual tension yes, but harmful? No.
What’s your ideal first date?
Summer Lovin: My ideal first date would consist of laughter, food, conversation, and a nice kiss at the end. I don’t care so much about what happens but rather about how I feel about the date during and after. As corny as it sounds I’m really just a simple chick who just likes hanging out, the traditional dinner and a movie would suffice, its more important that I have a good with the person and get to know them.
Snowdin: If you haven’t noticed yet, I’m a bit of a romantic. I’m also a big fan of experiences, so for me, the perfect first date would be some sort of fun, romantic experience with lots of laughter, activity, and getting to know each other. Some things this weekend that I think could make a perfect first date: Honk! Fest in Davis/Harvard with dinner or dessert depending on the timing (check out the new belgian waffle place in Harvard), Boston Local Food Festival at Fan Pier as there’s nothing better than bonding over some awesome local free food, or go old school and head up to Topsfield for some local flare at the Topsfield Fair with tractor pulls, caramel apples, and plenty of carnies.