How To Let Go of a Friendship That’s Falling Apart

Let it fall apart. We are humans and we have feelings. It is okay to disagree. It is okay to argue. It is okay to be angry, but it is not okay to spend days/months on end feeling sorry for a friendship that may need a break.

To be truthful if you still call your friend, ask to hangout, buy each other gifts or small tokens of appreciations, have sentimental conversations, then your friendship isn’t exactly falling apart. As friends you must allow each other to grow. Each of you will change in ways that the other will not understand. Again, it is okay for you not to understand their changes. Although he/she may be your closest friend, that doesn’t mean that you need to know everything about them. They may be changing for personal reasons that only require the acceptance of one’s self.

As long as you both are trying, whether making a minimum or maximum effort, then your friendship is not falling apart. If you feel as though you are making more of a contribution to the friendship then him/her then this relationship of giving without receiving may be too toxic for you.

Let me get spiritual for a moment: Live a life of reciprocity. Give without receiving and you will soon see life in a different light. When you are not seeking anything in return from what you give then you will allow those and your self to appreciate the power of giving.

Under any circumstances do not leave a friendship with revengeful tactics in mind. Karma is a bitch and she will haunt you. Be kind, continue to love, and treat him/her with the same respect you want as a person. Do not spend your days plotting on him/her or telling information that was told to you in secret. If you do this, you will only be hurting yourself. You must accept things that you cannot change. 

Tips to handle a toxic friendship:

1.     Be Kind – you do not know what the other person is going through, unless they tell you, so do not plot to hurt them.

2.     Plan Dates to the Bar, Club, Museum, etc – calling to hangout does not hurt, and if they show up then you will surely understand your place as their friend.

3.     Do not SHARE Secrets – If something was told to you behind closed doors then I suggest you suck it up and keep it to yourself. Remember, KARMA is real.

4.     Go Out and MEET New People – do not drag your current friends to things they do not like. Certain friends are for certain activities. Make as many friends as possible because you never know what character they can add to your life.

5.     YOU have a life to LIVE; take care of YOU first.