This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Toronto MU chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.
By: Gabby MontesanoÂ
Whether the relationship ended on good or bad terms, breakups are tough. Here are some tips on how to deal with heartbreak:
- Don’t obsess over the past. There was a reason for the break up so stop romanticizing what happened during the relationship. It’s easy to remember the good times in a relationship, but don’t let it constantly fill your thoughts. Focus on the present and the future and on how to be a better person.
- Spend time with family and friends. Keep yourself busy. Spending time with family and friends can distract you from those heart wrenching thoughts of your ex. Your cousin’s birthday party who you rarely talk to? Just go. Your friends want to go out for drinks on a Tuesday night? Just go. You deserve to have fun and be around people that love you.
- Focus on school and studying. A lot of the time people became distracted from school when in relationships. Spend time catching up on school work or get ahead in your classes. Education is so important and focusing on school can relieve stress about the future. Look for internships, join student clubs and organizations, learn a new language, take different classes. You’ll be busy and helping yourself grow as a person while you’re at it!Â
- Eat healthier and exercise Chances are you gained a few pounds while in a relationship from the constant eating out. Try a new workout routine and meal plan. Exercising releases a lot of built of anger and can completely change your perspective on things. You’ll look great and feel great!
- Practice self love Take time to treat yourself every now and then. Buy that dress you’ve been eyeing for awhile. Get your nails done every couple of weeks. Go out to dinner and drinks with friends. Do anything and everything that makes you genuinely happy. You’ll realize that all you need in order to enjoy life is yourself.Â
You might feel like your life is over or you’ve wasted your time in this relationship. But, you’re not alone and you will get through it. One day, hopefully soon, you’ll catch yourself not even batting an eye when you hear your ex’s name. Or, you won’t even think of them when you pass by that restaurant you always used to go to together. It takes time for your heart to heal but it will. Love yourself, take time for yourself and don’t expect anything to remerge from the past.