Her Campus Logo Her Campus Logo
The Lalatwo Friends Looking At City Skyline
The Lalatwo Friends Looking At City Skyline
Her Campus Media
Culture

The Pros and Cons of a 12-Year Age Gap: My Big Sibling Journey

The opinions expressed in this article are the writer’s own and do not reflect the views of Her Campus.
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Texas chapter.

In the intricate world of family dynamics, my story comes with a unique twist. As the oldest sibling, I find myself with a whopping 12-year age gap between my little sister and me. Siblings with substantial age gaps aren’t discussed enough, and I’ve often felt a sense of isolation, like I had no one to relate to. My friends have always been close to their siblings, making it more challenging. Being in college has only added to this feeling of distance. So, I’m sharing my experiences here, in the hopes that someone might stumble across this piece and be able to relate to it. I’ve put together a list of the pros and cons of having a significant age gap, so buckle up!

The Perks of a Big Age Gap

Let’s start with the good stuff. Having a little sister with a massive age difference feels like having a built-in friend and a personal entertainer all in one. It’s a package deal. We share secrets, play pretend, and, when I need a laugh, she’s my go-to stand-up comedian.

The best part? I get to be a part of her journey through life, celebrating those baby steps (literally) and her first words like they’re the moon landing. It’s a bit like having my own “live” documentary on growing up. Each new experience, each new word, and each new discovery is like a little victory that we celebrate together.

The Age Gap Challenges

Of course, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. When I’m away at college, I can’t help but feel like I’m missing out on a big part of her life. All those school events, swim meets, and birthday parties? Yeah, I can’t make it to all of them. It’s like watching your favorite show but missing some key episodes – you know you’ll catch up, but it’s just not the same.

And then there’s the nostalgia bomb that hits me every time I visit home. It’s like a sneak peek into a time machine, and I see how much she’s grown in the blink of an eye. It’s the good kind of heartache, though – the one that comes from watching your little sister blossom.

Juggling College and Sibling Life

Balancing college life with big sibling duties isn’t exactly a walk in the park. Fortunately, technology is my trusty sidekick. FaceTime has become our superpower, allowing us to share stories, jokes, and the occasional dance party, even from miles away.

But those home visits? They’re like reunions of epic proportions. We pack in as much fun as possible, from playing Roblox to marathon movie nights. It’s a bit like squeezing a week’s worth of sisterly bonding into a weekend, and it’s absolutely worth it.

Lessons from the Big Sibling School

Having a much younger sister is like a masterclass in life. It’s taught me patience, responsibility, and how to find joy in the small things. Her boundless curiosity and creative mind have given me fresh perspectives and taught me that the world is a playground filled with endless possibilities.

In closing, the journey of being a big sibling with a colossal age gap is like a thrilling adventure. While it comes with its challenges and moments of longing, it’s also filled with laughter, bonding, and the magic of watching a little one grow up. It’s a wild ride, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Achiraya, also known as Raya, is an associate editor at the Her Campus at the University of Texas at Austin chapter. Raya is currently pursuing a journalism degree with a minor in law at the University of Texas at Austin. From an early age, Achiraya has had a profound love for the written word. The art of storytelling, be it through articles, essays, or creative pieces, has consistently been her passion and source of solace.